# Filling the Void

**URL:** <https://letstalk.mindline.sg/t/filling-the-void/18113>\
**Category:** Is This Normal?\
**Created:** [October 30, 2024, 12:26am UTC](https://letstalk.mindline.sg/t/filling-the-void/18113 "2024-10-30T00:26:07Z")\
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**Author:** ![cottonsoul](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/youthmindline/user_avatar/letstalk.mindline.sg/cottonsoul/32/496_2.png) [@cottonsoul](https://letstalk.mindline.sg/u/cottonsoul)\
**Post date:** [October 30, 2024, 12:26am UTC](https://letstalk.mindline.sg/t/filling-the-void/18113/1 "2024-10-30T00:26:07Z")

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Dear friends,

Have you ever felt that sense of emptiness, like something’s just _missing_, and then find yourself scrolling, binge-watching, or maybe even overloading on activities to fill the time?

A lot of us turn to these distractions—social media, shopping, food—not because they’re all bad, but because they offer a **quick** way to feel better in the moment.

The thing is, that emptiness often comes from something deeper, like needing connection, purpose, or a break we haven’t given ourselves.

But what if we looked at ways to actually fulfill ourselves from the inside out? Maybe by exploring a hobby, connecting with friends, or even just pausing to ask ourselves, ‘What am I _really_ needing right now?’

So, I’m curious: what’s one thing you’ve noticed you turn to when you feel a bit empty (like a void) or restless?

 ![voidfiller](https://us1.discourse-cdn.com/youthmindline/original/1X/ed45ecb5420b633c4b5120cc6dc9fbd5a52cce56.jpeg)

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**Author:** ![Enie](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/youthmindline/user_avatar/letstalk.mindline.sg/enie/32/755_2.png) [@Enie](https://letstalk.mindline.sg/u/Enie)\
**Post date:** [October 30, 2024, 1:50pm UTC](https://letstalk.mindline.sg/t/filling-the-void/18113/2 "2024-10-30T13:50:36Z")

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Hi @cottonsoul I think I often feel that way too, as I constantly turn to social media or even watch kpop idols’ content to feel my emptiness. At one point, it feels like it’s not enough, it’s not feeling that void. So I take action by talking with my family, messaging my friends, or arranging outings. But again, does it really fill my emptiness? Maybe temporarily?  
I find myself having the fear of missing out (FOMO) a lot, which may be the root of all these. Was wondering if others feel the same as well? and how do you overcome this?

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**Author:** ![cottonsoul](https://sea2.discourse-cdn.com/youthmindline/user_avatar/letstalk.mindline.sg/cottonsoul/32/496_2.png) [@cottonsoul](https://letstalk.mindline.sg/u/cottonsoul)\
**Post date:** [November 1, 2024, 12:29am UTC](https://letstalk.mindline.sg/t/filling-the-void/18113/3 "2024-11-01T00:29:14Z")

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> [@Enie](#):
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> I think I often feel that way too, as I constantly turn to social media or even watch kpop idols’ content to feel my emptiness. At one point, it feels like it’s not enough, it’s not feeling that void. So I take action by talking with my family, messaging my friends, or arranging outings. But again, does it really fill my emptiness? Maybe temporarily?  
> I find myself having the fear of missing out (FOMO) a lot, which may be the root of all these. Was wondering if others feel the same as well? and how do you overcome this?

Hi @Enie !

It sounds like you’re tapping into something so relatable—using social media and other content as a way to fill that emptiness is something many people experience. That urge for connection, and even the FOMO you mentioned, are real drivers here. I often see this with clients, too, where they’re not just looking for entertainment or updates but for a way to soothe a feeling of disconnection or loneliness.

It’s great to hear you take positive steps by reaching out to family and friends and planning outings, but I get what you mean about the **temporary** nature of it. Sometimes it can feel like we’re putting a band-aid on a bigger, harder-to-define ache. One thing I like to suggest—and maybe this could work for you too—is to try building **small, fulfilling** routines that aren’t dependent on other people or external content 🙂  
Eg: Finding purpose in solo activities, like journaling or trying out a new skill, which can sometimes bring a sense of fulfillment that’s more lasting!

And hey, you’re not alone in wondering if others feel the same way 😉 FOMO is definitely a shared experience for so many of us! A lot of people are also looking for that balance—finding ways to connect that don’t rely on constant input from the outside world 🙂