Hi I can’t get to treat my breast cancer Tumor for years because I staying in a house with abusive and revengeful and abnormal behaviour members. I’m blocked from accessing into the 2 bedrooms which all my clothes and many stuffs are placed. I’m not able to reach into the 2 bedrooms and been out of bound for me since convid period 2020 because my mentally abusive mad sister initial forcing to claim a room all to herself. Since then, the old man father also closed another bedroom door too. I can’t access to all of stuff and they are getting “moulding and unused” and old. I’m desperately depress and in a helpless state of unrest mind for as long as convid period until even now.My personal safety is at stake, so is my property and belongings. I have lost a big stack of money and other documents. I believed is the mad sister has search through all my stuff lying in the main Hall and must have taken away from me.Can give me some advice besides moving out.
Dear @selfawareseashell4109,
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Being cut off from your own belongings for years, especially in a home environment that feels controlling and unsafe, would leave most people feeling trapped, exhausted, and distressed. On top of that, managing a serious health condition like breast cancer in the middle of all this makes the situation even more overwhelming. It makes a lot of sense that you feel helpless and on edge when even basic access to your physical space and documents is blocked, and trust within the household has broken down.
Even if it feels like you’re stuck, there is support available beyond trying to handle this alone. In Singapore, you can reach out to the National Anti-Violence and Sexual Harassment Helpline (NAVH) at 1800-777-0000, which supports people experiencing family violence, abuse, or coercive situations at home. They can help you think through safety options, access emergency or longer-term support, and explore practical steps for protecting your health care access and personal belongings. You can also contact one of the Protection Specialist Centres (PSCs) listed below for face-to-face assistance.
If your medical care is delayed, please do not struggle with it alone. If possible, you can discuss with a medical social worker at the hospital. The healthcare staff at the oncology clinic may also be able to help coordinate urgent support to ensure your treatment isn’t disrupted. It’s important to note that medical staff are trained to intervene in cases of family violence, so you can feel safe reaching out for help in any situation that requires urgent attention.
Resources:
List of PSCs:
Care Corner Project StART
6476 1482
projectstart@carecorner.org.sg
TRANS SAFE Centre
64499088
transsafe@trans.org.sg
PAVE Integrated Services for Individual and Family Protection Specialist Centre (ISIFPSC)
65550390
intake@pave.org.sg
It sounds like you have been living in a very stressful and difficult home situation for a long time, especially since the COVID period. Being unable to access your own belongings, worrying about your money and documents, and feeling unsafe at home can affect both mental and physical health over time. Carrying this while also dealing with breast cancer is a lot for one person to manage alone.
What you described also suggests that the stress has been ongoing for years without enough support or resolution. When someone lives under constant tension or conflict for a long time, it can become harder to think clearly, make decisions, or know where to begin. Feeling restless, helpless, mentally tired, or emotionally overwhelmed can happen when the body and mind have been under strain for too long.
Right now, your physical health and safety are important.
Since you were previously diagnosed with breast cancer, you can consider contacting the hospital, clinic, or doctor where you first received your diagnosis or treatment. Medical social workers attached to hospitals are trained to support patients facing family, emotional, housing, or financial difficulties that may affect treatment access.
You mentioned not wanting advice that only focuses on moving out, and that is understandable. Situations involving family conflict, finances, health, and safety are often more complicated than people realise.
For now, it may help to focus on one step at a time:
- medical treatment and follow-up
- personal safety
- important documents and belongings
- emotional and practical support outside the home
You may also consider approaching the nearest Family Service Centre (FSC). Social workers there can help assess your situation and support you with practical assistance, emotional support, mediation guidance, and access to financial or community resources where needed.
Is there anyone outside the household… friend, relative, counsellor, doctor, or social worker… who already knows what has been happening?
If things start feeling mentally overwhelming, you can also contact:
- mindline.sg Get Help Now
- National Mindline 1771
For now, it may be more helpful to focus on getting support, safety, and medical care in place first for yourself. Let us know if you need help in reaching out?