Kinda need help. I am struggling with finding a job after getting terminated unfairly.. I regretted not pursuing TADM for this and thus, my record is “termination”. It has been 5 months since my last post (can see my last post written on dec 2025 on what happen) and i indeed struggle with finding job.. Went for 20+ interviews but all failed and no second round. I am getting depressed and hopeless..
How should I deal with my regret of not pursing TADM? And how should I encourage myself in this job search?
Ps i have used up all ways, including seeking help from career coach and i have a counsellor already but want to hear from others as well.
Thank you for writing in. I agree that going through five months of interviews without progress is disappointing. It’s understandable you are feeling tired and discouraged. Anyone in your shoes will feel similarly so please know you are not alone.
Do be gentle with yourself on the TADM regret. I believe you made the best decision you could at that time, with what you knew and how you felt. Vision is usually clearer on hindsight for everyone. It is easy to look back now and think you should have done differently, but that may not mean it would have changed everything. May I recommend working with your counsellor on reducing the self blame and letting go of regret.
May I also suggest to:
-Record the learning points from each interview you were shortlisted for, the types of questions asked and areas you felt you did well or could have done better. Go through with the career counsellor and brainstorm areas to address/ improve. Also discuss with the career counsellor and prepare an objective response to explain the ‘termination’.
-Work with your counsellor on self limiting beliefs to address.
-Take on part-time or ad hoc work to build skillsets, chalk up work experience and build connections/network.
-Reach out to your network to cast your job search net wide. Stay open minded on options.
Understandably this is a difficult transition period. Do be compassionate to yourself and remember that not securing a job is not a reflection of your ability. The current situation is also temporary. Keep your chin up, continue taking consistent and steady steps forward.
It sounds really tough with the job market right now, you are for sure not alone. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here - it is brave of you to do so, and you are also reaching out to many who may be facing the same situation. While I am not too familiar with the procedures, are there any ways to contact regulatory bodies to ask, perhaps via email?
It truly sounds hard. I know it is easy for me to type the words “don’t give up”, but I truly mean it. Please hang on! One day, you’ll find a great job, and you’ll be proud of how far you’ve come and how strong you had been. While you’re engaging in job search now, remember to take care of yourself through exercises and eating well. Feed your soul by doing things you like to do, recharging can really help. And lastly, with every closed door, another opens - it may not always be a door, but it may also be a window that opens, showing you other opportunities that are available. Have trust in the process, and everything will be okay, you got this.
with the job market right now, you are for sure not alone. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here - it is brave of you to do so, and you are also reaching out to many who may be facing the same situation. While I am not too familiar with the procedures, are there any ways to contact regulatory bodies to ask, perhaps via email?