Are there some of you that overcame not liking your face or overcoming seeing your face getting old?
I didnt plan to live long and didnt want to grow old. Attempt failed n wont do that again but it really bugs me that i am seeing my face aging since last year
while i personally don’t notice very significant changes in my appearance, i think you could consider reframing your thoughts a little :3 for example, signs of growing old don’t have to be a negative thing, rather, you could see them as trophies signifying that you were strong enough to live another day!!
hey @user1138, thank you for being so incredibly honest… and i feel you on this! ageing used to scare me a lot too. i rmb using those old face filters and genuinely feeling so disturbed. like, is that rlly going to be me one day? it brought up so many uncomfortable thoughts i didn’t know how to sit with.
it makes sense that seeing your face change would stir up those feelings, esp when you hadn’t pictured yourself living long (btw, i just want to say that i’m rlly glad you’re still here 
. i’m proud of you for holding on, and i hope you’re proud of yourself, too). being faced with a future you didn’t plan for is a heavy thing to carry. i see you.
like @charlottes said, what’s helped me was slowly shifting how i see ageing. not as sth to fear, but as a quiet reminder that i’ve made it this far. a reminder of my strength and courage to continue on no matter the challenges, a sign of all the lessons i’ve learnt and memories i’ve made. and while that doesn’t instantly erase the discomfort, it does soften it.
and tbh, i’ve never looked at a person and thought “omg he/she looks so old” or “dang those wrinkles / grey hair / age spots are ugly”. if anything, i often find myself wondering what stories that person has, what insights they can share with me.
another thing that’s helped is recognising that so much of our discomfort with ageing comes from the media – a whole industry that profits off the idea that ageing is a problem to be fixed, just to sell us more products. it’s infuriating how deeply those insidious anti-ageing messages run, but that doesn’t make them true. ageing is a beautiful, natural part of life, and sth not everyone gets the chance to experience. personally, ik that when i reach the end of my life, i’ll be grateful for every year i got to spend here, not lamenting the physical changes that came with that journey. and maybe it’s the pettiness in me, but i enjoy feeling like i’ve “beat” the system by not buying into all that anti-ageing bs HAHAHA
you don’t have to love your face or be at peace with ageing right now. it’s okay to just notice the changes, feel weird about them, and still choose to keep going anyway. that in itself is powerful.
be gentle with yourself, okay? you’re beautiful just the way you are 