Feeling overwhlmed and Exhausted.. Have constant pressure in school full tuitions and then school I have no enough Time to rest and no one’s understanding what I am going through its draning me out mentally and physically… I have fear of judgement as well I feel as if everyone will judge me based on how I will study and my parents obviously will scold me with the “freaking” marks i get.. Scared of how people will say… In my tuition classes it becomes harder to focus as .. firstly full weeks i have tuition everyday.. and secondly my brain feels like tabs its like a mess Its harder to focus… When i try to open up to my parents they just.. unsee it.. and i am just left alone dealing with this ■■■■.. i told my mom today and then she texted my dad saying she is acting like this blah blah.. and my dad.. well he said i am a freaking hopeless cause…
Hi, I wanted to explain what I’ve been feeling lately:
I’m feeling extremely overwhelmed. I have school and weekend tuition for math, and it’s becoming too much. I barely get time to do my own self-study or even complete my school homework. I’m constantly rushing, and it feels like no one around me really understands how stressed I am.
I feel mentally exhausted all the time. My brain feels foggy—I can’t focus in class or tuition. Even when I try, it’s like nothing sticks. Sometimes my tutor says things like, “I already explained this,” or “you need counselling,” and that just makes me feel worse, like I’m failing. I start questioning what’s wrong with me.
I also feel completely alone. I tried talking to my mom about my stress, but she laughed it off. My dad called me “hopeless.” I don’t feel seen or heard. It’s like I’m surrounded by people but still feel completely invisible.
I think I might be depressed. I wake up feeling tired. I feel numb, emotionally drained, and hopeless. Sometimes I think, “I’m done,” not because I want to hurt myself—but because I don’t know how to keep going like this. I feel like I’m trying so hard, but nothing is getting better.
I’ve been getting low marks, and it really affects me. It makes me feel worthless—like I’m not good enough, even though I’m trying my best. I hate disappointing others, but I hate feeling like I’m failing myself even more.
And I’m scared. Scared of teachers telling my parents. Scared of judgment. Scared I won’t be able to get out of this loop. I just want someone to understand me without making me feel worse.
That’s why I’m here. Because I want help. Because I don’t want to feel this way anymore.
hi @user9516 
taking the first step to say you want to get help is already progress and i hope you know that there’s bravery and strength to do so.
i’m sorry to hear that life has been overwhelming for you and it does sound like there are many thing stacked on your plate. i can imagine that it feels like you’re being pulled in 100 different directions with all the responsibilities and tasks you have to complete. Other than that, I’m sure it was disheartening to have been met with not-so-kind reactions like what your tutor said and being labelled as “hopeless”.
I do want to reassure you that your stress and exhaustion is not invalid and you’re not a failure. No one is perfect and it really does take time for someone to master something, whether it is time management, studies, or coping with big emotions.
This is a safe space and you’re free to talk about your stress whenever you want 
Personally, I wasn’t a good student either HAHA i didn’t get the best marks nor did i feel like I knew what I was doing half the time. I didn’t have a very supportive tutor as well but I was told my alot of my friends to be abit more thick skin (def easier said than done) cause the tutor’s job is to help me! I still struggle talking to my parents when it comes to my negative emotions (maybe it’s an asian parent thing idk) but I did rly rely on my friends during my time in school. I also learnt looking back in hindsight, the results may influence where we end up next but never determines the rest of our journey. I failed maths every year till my Os and never had to touch maths after that. Made me wonder if the struggles were worth it but I’d say that even if I don’t remember how to solve equations, I definitely picked up more soft skills like resilience, determination, etc.
I don’t know if this helps but I really do hope this encourages you to know that you’re human and not meant to be perfect. You’ve got a long road ahead and many many many more opportunities to find the things you enjoy to do.
Secondary school was a nightmare to be in
Dear @user9516
Thank you for openly sharing that you’re feeling this way — what you’re experiencing sounds incredibly overwhelming, and I want you to know that your feelings are completely valid. Trying to carry so much — school, tuition, expectations, fear of judgment, and not feeling understood — can weigh heavily on anyone, especially when it feels like no one is truly listening.
It’s not helpful that you’re being made to feel like a “hopeless cause” when what you really need is support, not criticism. You’re not hopeless — not at all. You’re exhausted. You’re running on empty, doing your best in a system that demands so much, and it’s okay to feel tired, frustrated, and hurt. It doesn’t make you weak — it makes you human.
When your brain feels like it has too many tabs open, it can be a sign of burnout. This kind of mental overload makes it hard to focus, think clearly, or even just be. You deserve rest, compassion, and space to breathe — not just more pressure.
If your parents aren’t able to support you emotionally right now, you might want to consider talking to a school counsellor or trusted teacher. You don’t have to face this all alone. It’s okay to ask for help — and it’s strong to do so.
You are not alone. You are not broken. And you do deserve support, peace, and kindness. Please take a small moment today to breathe, to do one thing just for yourself — even if it’s just closing your eyes and being still. Please keep reaching out here for support whenever you need it. You are precious and matter. 
Hey, thank you for sharing all this. What you’re feeling is incredibly heavy, and I want to start by saying—you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not weak or hopeless. You’re exhausted, and you’re hurting, and that’s completely valid given how much you’ve been juggling on your own.
Your brain and body are sounding the alarm—too much stress, not enough rest, and not feeling emotionally supported. That foggy feeling, the numbness, the difficulty focusing—those are real signs of burnout, not failure. And the way your tutor or parents have responded? That’s not fair to you. You deserve kindness, not judgment.
You mentioned wanting help, so here are a few small, but hopefully helpful steps:
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Start with tiny routines: Choose one or two small things each day that are just for you—like journaling for 5 minutes, stretching, or listening to music that calms you. These help signal to your brain that you’re still caring for yourself.
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Give your mind space: When things feel chaotic, try something like the “brain dump” method: take a blank sheet of paper and write out everything swirling in your head—no order, no pressure. Then pick just one small thing to focus on.
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Reaching out again: I know your parents didn’t respond the way you needed. If possible, is there a school counselor or trusted teacher you could talk to? Even showing them what you wrote here might help them understand better. You deserve an adult who listens.
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Be kind to yourself: Try telling yourself what you would say to a friend in the same situation. “I’m doing the best I can,” “It’s okay to feel tired,” “I’m allowed to ask for help.” Because you are.
And finally, if these feelings keep building or feel too hard to carry alone, you deserve real support. Reaching out to a mental health professional isn’t a weakness—it’s a brave and important step toward feeling better.
You’re not alone. You’re worth so much more than your grades or what anyone else says.
Hey @user9516 how are you feeling today?
Thanks for sharing what you’ve been going through, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now, with school and tuition responsibilities. It also must have been hurtful to receive those words and reactions from your parents when you tried to open up to them. I just want to assure you that what you are feeling is real, is normal and it does not mean that you are hopeless. To echo what @CaringBee mentioned, you are being human.
Now, since you mentioned wanting help, on top of the suggestions that @knd has shared, I wonder if there are any activities you like to do or have been wanting to do but did not have the time to, like engaging in sports, or arts such as drawing, making music or exploring new places, like nature parks? If you do have something in mind, what could help is to cater some time each day to engaging in these activities. It doesn’t have to take long, and you can treat it as taking a short 20min break before you resume studying or other responsibilities that you have.
Taking breaks to engage in activities that you enjoy doing can help to relieve some of the stress and burnout you’re facing. If this is too long, you can consider taking 5-10min breaks for every hour of study, to focus on your breathing and take a short walk around wherever you are, which helps with grounding yourself in the moment.
I hope these suggestions help. And if you do have trusted friends or a trusted adult you can talk to, it would be helpful to share with them what you’ve shared here too, for that extra support!
Once again, know that you are not alone. Take care!