Have you ever started therapy but found that your therapist isn’t a good fit for you? I personally have, and it was (at the time) a very frustrating and sad experience. I later learned that it’s a normal experience to sometimes have to find a therapist that is a good fit!
I’m now seeing someone who I work well with in therapy and glad to have found a good fit! Has anyone else experienced this? And what were some of the struggles with the experience and how did you overcome it?
So true!! such an important thing to actually highlight and know when going for therapy/counselling. I didn’t have great experiences with my initial sessions with school counsellors and I always thought that maybe I was a difficult person or someone who was “being too picky”. But I recently put myself out there to try another counsellor and was more vocal about some concerns I had in my screening call, I feel like I’m now seeing someone I feel more aligned with and definitely more supported by!
The final push I needed to try finding another counsellor was actually from my partner! He has always been consistent with his sessions and I think the fomo was abit real LOL and he shared with me his own concerns since he was coming to the age where he couldn’t be under a certain provider anymore. Hence, he needed to find someone new and told me where he was referred to.
Strongly encourage everyone to not deny yourself of finding a listening ear through counselling! It can feel scary and even disheartening if the first one you get paired up with isn’t what you were looking for. But!! everyone deserves the proper support they need and it does take a few tries as what @lilac shared.
Hello @lilac
Thanks for sharing your experience. Curious to know how did you know that you were not the right fit with your therapist?
@lilac Oh man, I feel you on this. It’s tough when you finally take that step to get support, but the person doesn’t quite get you or the vibes just feel off. I’ve been there too but on the other side.
But yeah, when you finally find someone you really click with—it’s a game changer. That good fit forms the foundation of what we call the therapeutic alliance, and honestly, just having that connection can already feel like half the healing has begun. You’re not alone in this at all, and I’m really glad you found someone who works well with you. That’s such a huge win!! 
hi @lilac,
I am glad you have found a therapist that you can work well with! 
I remembered there was a video by Louis Rossmann (a YouTuber) who shared that he used to see someone that just pretends to listen to him and would even doodle during their therapy session.
I encourage everyone here to keep changing therapists till you find someone suitable!