so last week (last TUESDAY to be exact) (i think i cant remember) i made a post about how i have been coping with my studies (its not great. term 3 is my flop era) and like updates on the math wa3: i did badly. i think i was the only one who failed and i realised 3 days after that it was because my calculator was in radian mode so all my angles are around 0.something degrees and honestly i hated myself for that. and tomorrow is my amath wa3. been going through formulas over and over again and i still cant get them in my head and cried for an hour over it. i really dont wanna fail again especially since i already failed emath and amath the previous semester, and not to forget i have a literal CHINESE EXAM which i forgot about happening this thursday. and im turning 15 next tuesday and i really wanted to pass my birthday in peace but my school decided to once again, make me sit for an EXAM on my birthday and this time it isnt even a written paper it is ORALS and on tuesdays we would normally be dismissed at 2.30 pm (except for the physics students who would usually need to stay back for an hour more haha sucks to be them) but the latest time we would be released is at 6 PM. i really cant handle school anymore but yeah i was crying for an hour over this and i realised that i am unable to handle stress the way my classmates could. like they usually shrug it off or do casual breathing excercises but i cry while doing those so uhâŠ
yeah. i feel like theres genuinely smth wrong with me. i feel childish and immature honestly, especially since i cry a lot in school. my classmates once saw me run out of class crying over my exam results and since then they wont stop using simple words when talking to me like im a child
Hey @levi_isagirl. That sound really really tough. I just want to pause here for a sec and say that I see how hard youâre trying. Truly. Itâs not just about the tests, but more on how much you actually care, and how exhausting it is to care this much while also feeling youâre slipping away.
Youâre seeing all the ways youâre âmessing upâ, but I see someone who is still showing up, still studying, still figuring out ways to support yourself, even though part of you feels like giving up. That must count for something. And to me, it counts for a lot.
The thing is, youâre actually handling so much all at once so youâre overwhelmed. So maybe the problem isnât you, but the pace, pressure and the silence around how hard it actually is.
I know it might feeling like youâre not handling things well because others seem more composed but being composed doesnât equal to being okay. However your emotions show up, thatâs just how you cope. If it works for you, then it works for you. And sometimes thatâs the most honest thing you can do for yourself. So, just because you express your emotions differently doesnât mean youâre doing worse than anyone else. Itâs not immaturity or childish even. Itâs honesty and very much human. People express themselves differently.
You donât have to be like everyone else to be doing your best. Youâre already doing the best you can, and that is enough
Hey @levi_isagirl, thank you for sharing all of this, it really sounds like youâre carrying a lot right now, and it makes complete sense that youâd feel overwhelmed .
First of all, there is nothing wrong with you. Youâre not weak, childish, or immature for crying. Youâre reacting in a very human way to very real pressure, school, multiple exams, the pressure to perform, and your birthday being overtaken by stress. Thatâs not small stuff.
Failing because your calculator was in radian mode is a painful kind of mistake, especially when you were trying your best but that doesnât make you a failure. That makes you human. And the fact that youâre still studying for A-Math, prepping for Chinese orals, and pushing through despite how rough itâs been? Thatâs strength .
Itâs also okay if breathing exercises donât work for you the same way they do for your classmates. Everyone manages stress differently and crying is not weakness, itâs release. Youâre trying to process more than your mind can hold in and tears help ease that pressure.
Youâre only 14, turning 15. Youâre still growing and learning how to handle big things. Youâre not supposed to have it all figured out yet. What youâre facing would be hard on anyone.
So hereâs a reminder that you are not behind just because your classmates look more composed. You are not a failure because of your scores. You are not weak because you feel deeply.
Take small steps. Maybe list just one or two formulas to remember each time instead of trying to stuff them all in at once. And for your birthday is there anything small and comforting you can look forward to after the oral exam? A favorite snack? A show? Even a 15-minute break to just breathe and exist without school?
You deserve kindness from others and from yourself. Iâm rooting for you .
Hello @levi_isagirl thank you for sharing this so openly. What youâre going through is incredibly overwhelming, and the way youâre feeling is completely valid. It doesnât make you weak, immature, or childish to feel deeply, it makes you human. Youâre facing an intense amount of pressure all at once: multiple exams, the weight of past results, your birthday being overshadowed by school, and the stress of not feeling like youâre coping normally compared to your classmates. Thatâs a lot for anyone, especially at 15.
It makes perfect sense that you broke down. Your reaction isnât a sign of weakness, itâs a natural response to being under so much stress without enough space to breathe. Youâre trying hard . Youâre reviewing your formulas, youâre reflecting on your mistakes (like the calculator in radian mode), and youâre clearly caring deeply about your progress. The fact that you care this much says so much about your strength, even if it doesnât feel like it right now.
It also sounds like youâre carrying a lot of internal guilt, hating yourself over one mistake, feeling like thereâs something wrong with how youâre handling things. But struggling with stress or crying when youâre overwhelmed doesnât mean something is wrong with you. Everyone copes differently. Some cry, some go quiet, some distract themselves. None of those ways are wrong.
As for your classmatesâ reaction, Iâm really sorry theyâre treating you that way. Itâs hurtful when people respond with condescension instead of compassion. Thatâs not your fault. Itâs a reflection of their lack of emotional understanding, not yours. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, regardless of how you express your emotions.
Even though it doesnât feel like it now, this difficult season will pass. Exams will end. School pressure will eventually lighten. And you will grow stronger, not because you toughen up or cry less, but because youâll learn how to take care of your mental health in a way that suits you. Youâre doing your best, and that is enough. You are not alone. Youâre not weak. Youâre not broken. Youâre just overwhelmed, and thatâs okay.
hello, thank you for sharing I understand that you are overwhelmed by school, and your feelings are valid. being a student muself, I understand the hectic schedule and pace of school is stressful. the fact that you are able to juggle the exams shows your quiet strength, and I will like to commend you on that
everyone has different coping strategies and it is okay to cry when you are overwhelmed, but getting back to your feet is also equally important, and I see that in you.
what helps me whenever I am stressed is to also do small tasks when prepping for my exam, and celebrating small wins.
Hey @levi_isagirl
It really sounds like youâve been under so much pressure lately, and it makes complete sense that youâd feel overwhelmed. Multiple exams in such a short span, the stress of past results, and even your birthday being overshadowed by school is a lot for anyone to carry, especially at 15.
That calculator mistake must have been so frustrating, especially knowing it wasnât a lack of effort on your part. But one mistake doesnât define you, and it certainly doesnât make you a failure. The fact that youâre still pushing through, revising for Math and preparing for your Chinese oral shows just how resilient you are, even if it doesnât feel that way right now.
Itâs okay if your way of handling stress looks different from your classmatesâ. Some people keep calm on the outside, others cry. Neither is âbetterâ or âworse,â just different. Youâre not childish for experiencing these emotions outwardly. You care about your future, and thatâs something to be proud of, not ashamed of. Itâs also impossible to know what your classmateâs lives are like behind closed doors, so they could be crying as well.
I hope you can still find a small way to make your birthday special for yourself, even with the oral exam. And good luck on your exams. You got this!
Ps. Iâve made the same radians mode mistake last year, too, and I know many of my friends who have as well hahaha.
Hey, that honestly sounds so overwhelming â Iâm really sorry youâre going through all this. Youâve been juggling so much and still pushing through, even when itâs hard, and that honestly shows strength, not weakness.
Crying doesnât make you immature or âwrongâ â it just means youâre feeling things deeply, and thatâs okay. Everyone handles stress differently, and your way is just as valid.
And Iâm really sorry your classmates treated you like that â you deserve to be spoken to with respect, no matter what. I hope your birthday brings even a little peace, because you honestly deserve a break. Youâre not alone in this, okay?
Thank you for sharing your experiences at school, and i am sorry for what you are going through.
I will take a different approach in my reply, instead of comforting you, i will share with you how to remember those equations.
First of all, you must know how to use those equations. No point remembering them but not knowing which one to use during exams. To remember them, write a few equations down one at a time (write the same equations multiple times if you have to), then test yourself by covering them up and see if you can write them successfully without looking.
If you pass the test, move onto a few more. If you fail the test, write them a few more times and test yourself again without look. After a while, retest yourself on those equations you got correct before. If you pass, test yourself again tomorrow. If you fail, write the correct equations and test yourself a while later.
Remember to retest yourself consistently, but wait longer and longer between each successful retest. Anytime you fail, you can retest yourself again as soon as you like. This is called spaced repetition, and it is one of the best ways to learn anything.
Remember to remember only work on a few ânewâ equations at a time. All the best to you!
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I understand that you are overwhelmed by school, and your feelings are valid. being a student muself, I understand the hectic schedule and pace of school is stressful. the fact that you are able to juggle the exams shows your quiet strength, and I will like to commend you on that 
