Lately whenever somebody tease me or joke with me i immediately felt pissed and angry even if it was a light and harmless joke this cause me to lose my friend and it’s really ruining me is this normal thing?
Dear @user7055,
I hear your frustration and worry, it’s alright to be sensitive, it’s a normal emotion to face even though other parties and outside factors might disagree. Being able to even pinpoint it and reach out is already very brave and thoughtful of you. Hold yourself and be with yourself during these times of sensitivity~
You mentioned that you get affected by the jokes your friends make? Well that’s alright, this reaction is totally normal when we feel sensitive. If you’re open for a suggestion, you could let your friend know that you’re affected by the joke and the reason why? This little chatter might bring you a long way. But of course, if only you feel comfortable yeah?
Much hugs 
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Dear @user7055
Thank you for sharing your recent observations about your reaction to jokes and teasing and how you lost a friend as a result. I can see that you are reflecting on your reaction and this shows you have good self awareness.
What you have described, which is reacting to external stimulus almost on autopilot is fairly common. Between a stimulus and our response, there is a space during which we can mindfully and actively choose how we wish to respond. However, when we undergo stress or feel tired, I have observed that humans do tend to react. I therefore encourage you to take a regular breaks to calm yourself and be more present and mindful. Slowing down this way can help us create space to choose our response when we are faced with stimuli.
Speaking to a counsellor may help too, as it can be a safe space for you to process any incidents (past or present) that may be affecting you in the present.
Please know you are not alone and you can reduce reactivity with steady, consistent practice of being mindful and driven by your values.
Keep reaching out for support, here whenever needed.
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It could be your friend’s way of showing they are comfortable with you, of course its no good if you don’t like it which is why its important to draw boundaries. It helps your friends to understand and respect for who you are while staying on good terms with you
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