What is self-compassion #2

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Hey again everyone! :smiley:

This time, I’m going to be sharing some tips on how to foster more self-compassion into our daily lives!

  • Avoid giving yourself self-defeating labels (e.g., I am not sociable, I’m not likeable) and try to replace them with positive ones
  • Don’t deprive yourself of pleasure as it leads to feelings of self-deprivation and might sabotage your goals in life
  • Establish boundaries and if something doesn’t feel right, listen to your gut!
  • Make your needs clear especially with people that are letting you down
  • Do more of things that bring peace to you
  • Prioritise your health and happiness
  • Apply positive affirmations on a daily basis to feel better about your ability to take on the day!
  • Make peace with your past by letting go of old hurts and move forward
  • Give yourself meaningful rewards
  • Watch out for all-or-nothing thinking

Lemme know what y’all think about this, and feel free to ask any questions if you have any! Good luck practicing! :grin:

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hey there, could you share and elaborate more on how we can work on establishing boundaries with people?

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Hello @hereforyou, I think it could follow some steps like:

  • identify “What’s my goal in setting a boundary with this person?”
  • practice by writing out what you want to say before rehearsing it
  • pick a suitable time and place that is condusive for a calm conversation
  • use I statements to set your boundary: “I think/feel … because… and I would prefer that (what you would like done instead)”
  • though you can’t control the person’s reaction or choices they make, you can control your own response to their actions. And, if you stay calm, they may too.

There’s other ways this can be done and with setting boundaries in different settings like with family, work, friends, etc. This link could be helpful should you want to find out more!

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