Sometimes I feel like my emotions are just an act and it’s not real. Like when I cry, I ask myself ‘am I crying for real or just manipulate my brain to cry thinking I’m feeling sad?’
Also, why do I need someone’s approval to believe that I’m feeling something? For example, pain. Sometimes I’m not sure what I’m feeling is painful enough to be called a pain. If someone says what I’m dealing with must be painful, looks painful, are painful, until then I’ll believe that it is painful.
Can someone explain? Or even if you might’ve experience the same thing, feel free to share. I would like to understand about this more
Hey @Meo, thanks for sharing this with me. It’s brave to talk about these deeply personal thoughts and feelings. What you’re experiencing is more common than you might think. It sounds like you’re dealing with some complex emotions and self-doubt.
When it comes to our feelings, it’s not unusual to question their authenticity. Sometimes, our minds get wrapped up in overthinking and we start doubting ourselves. Emotions can be tricky—sometimes they’re clear as day, and other times they’re like a fog. The need for validation from others when it comes to your feelings is part of being human. We’re social creatures, and seeking assurance is a way to connect and understand ourselves better through others’ perspectives.
Regarding pain, it’s important to recognize that pain is subjective. It varies greatly from person to person. What might be excruciating for one might be tolerable for another. If you feel uncertain about whether what you’re experiencing is “real” pain, it’s okay to talk to someone about it—a friend, family member, or a professional. They can help you make sense of your feelings and validate your experience.
Remember, you don’t need to have someone else’s approval to validate your emotions or pain. Your feelings are valid simply because you feel them. It’s all part of the human experience, even if it feels confusing sometimes.
If you ever feel like talking more about this, or if there’s anything specific you’d like to delve into, I’m here for you.
I personally have always fail to differentiate how I want to feel vs How I actually feel. So for me is If you actually cried or feel like crying, there’s something you wanna let out. If you are feeling pain then It is pain. Your first reaction is ur true reaction! Believe that emotions are real
Hey @Meo! Agree with this just wanna add on that it could also be you processing the emotions at the moment and its normal to take into consideration what are people are saying. At the end of the day what you are feeling is your subconsicius and body trying to guide you to doing what you need
