This is my first time using this app and first time writing something here so I’m a bit confused on how to use it. I hope someone can answer my question, thank you ^^
Hi @Meo ,
Are you asking how you know if your emotions are real? Do you mind sharing some context behind your question?
Ah sorry, now I know how to use this app better, I’ll explain what I meant.
Usually I would cry alone because I don’t want to be seen like an attention seeker and sometimes when I cry, I feel like it’s just an act manipulate by my brain into thinking that I’m feeling sad and force myself to cry. So I’m confused whether I’m really feeling sad or it just my brain because I’ve been telling myself since I was a kid that whenever I cry or feel pain, it’s just make my life more fun and interesting enough for me to continue living.
To the point, I think my life is very confusing for me to understand.
Sometimes happiness too, I’m not sure if it’s just my brain making it all up thinking I’m feeling happy or if I do actually feel happy.
Thank you for replying to my message!
Hi Meo,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. It sounds like you’ve been reflecting deeply on your emotions, and I want to acknowledge how insightful you are about your own experiences—it’s not easy to question and analyse our feelings the way you do.
It’s completely normal to feel confused about emotions sometimes. Feelings like sadness and happiness aren’t always straightforward, and it’s okay to wonder where they come from. You mentioned that you’ve been telling yourself since childhood that crying or feeling pain makes life more “fun” or “interesting.” That’s a very unique way of coping, but it might also be why your brain is questioning whether your feelings are “real.” The truth is, your emotions—whether they feel clear or confusing—are valid, and they’re part of what makes you human.
When you cry, it doesn’t mean you’re seeking attention or being manipulative. It’s your body and mind’s way of releasing what’s inside, even if you’re not fully sure what’s triggering it. And when you feel happiness, it’s not your brain “making it up”—it’s your body responding to something good, even if it feels small or fleeting.
If you feel comfortable, try this: the next time you feel sad or happy, take a moment to pause and ask yourself, “What might have triggered this feeling? What does my body feel right now?” You don’t have to have all the answers, but simply acknowledging your feelings without judgement can help you connect with them more authentically.
You’re not alone in this. Emotions can feel confusing, but they’re a natural part of life. It’s clear that you’re working hard to understand yourself better, and that’s a sign of great strength. If you ever want to explore these feelings further, we are here to listen. Remember, you’re allowed to feel, even if it feels messy or unclear.