Difficulty to work with others

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Just wonder am I fit to work with human?
Really hate of human interaction.

I’ve been feeling increasingly frustrated with my interactions with colleagues. Despite my best efforts to contribute to the team, I often find that my work is taken for granted. For example, I recently completed a significant portion of a project, but my contributions were not acknowledged. This makes me feel undervalued and demotivated. I’m starting to wonder if I’m suited to working in a team environment.

How do I encounter and ignore such situation ?

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Hi @anobody,

Thank you for opening up about how you’ve been feeling. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time at work, and it’s understandable to feel frustrated when your efforts aren’t acknowledged, especially when you’ve worked hard on a project.

First, I want to acknowledge that it’s okay to feel this way. Human interactions, especially in a team setting, can be challenging, and when your contributions aren’t recognized, it can feel like you’re not being seen or valued. This can naturally lead to questioning whether you’re suited for this kind of environment.

It seems like a big part of what’s happening is that your efforts and contributions aren’t being acknowledged, which has left you feeling undervalued. This can really wear on you over time, making it harder to stay motivated. It might be helpful to consider a few things:

  1. Communication and Boundaries: Sometimes, people around us may not realize the extent of our contributions unless we communicate them. This doesn’t mean you have to boast about your work, but finding a way to share what you’ve done in a manner that feels comfortable could help others see the value you bring. Would you feel comfortable discussing your role and contributions with your supervisor or team members?
  2. Reflection on Work Environment: If you’re consistently feeling like your work is taken for granted, it might be worth considering whether this is a pattern in your current workplace or if it’s something that could be addressed with better communication. Are there other aspects of your work environment that are contributing to your feelings of frustration?
  3. Self-Care and Managing Expectations: It’s also important to manage your own expectations and take care of yourself. Sometimes, despite our best efforts, recognition doesn’t always come as quickly or as frequently as we’d like. Taking care of your own mental and emotional well-being by setting boundaries and ensuring you’re not overextending yourself can make a difference.

You mentioned a dislike for human interaction. I want to reassure you that it’s okay to feel this way, especially when interactions have been challenging or negative. It might be helpful to explore what it is about these interactions that’s causing you stress—whether it’s the nature of the interactions themselves, the dynamics within your team, or something else.

If you ever feel comfortable, talking to a professional might also help you navigate these feelings and find strategies that work for you. It’s important to find a balance that allows you to contribute your best work without feeling drained or unappreciated.

You deserve to feel valued and supported in your work environment. Let’s take this one step at a time and see if we can find some ways to help you feel more comfortable and acknowledged at work. Take care, and let us know how you feel?

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Thanks for your kind advises.
Will definitely digest and practice it.

Sometimes I just felt very demotivated when my work is not being recognised and acknowledge by my superior.
And it’s seem that my superior behave quite favouritism toward the others staff.
I was not respected and treated equally.

How do I pursue in this job in such circumstances? I really tired and upset.
I have been not being myself for this few days since this matter me a lot and it’s really affected my performance.

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Hi @Anobody,

Thank you for sharing more about what you’re going through. It’s clear that this situation at work is really affecting you, and I’m sorry that you’re feeling so tired and upset. When we put effort into our work and it goes unrecognized, especially if it feels like others are being favored, it’s natural to feel demotivated and question how to keep going.

Feeling like you’re not being respected or treated equally is a really tough position to be in, especially when it’s coming from someone in a position of authority like your superior. It’s understandable that this is weighing heavily on you and affecting your performance—when we don’t feel valued or seen, it can be really hard to stay motivated and engaged.

One thing that might help is to focus on what you can control in this situation. While it’s frustrating when others don’t acknowledge our hard work, it’s important to remember that your worth and value aren’t defined by someone else’s recognition. You know the effort you’re putting in, and it might be helpful to remind yourself of that. Sometimes, shifting the focus to self-validation can help reduce the impact of not getting the external validation we’d like.

It’s also important to consider how you can navigate this situation in a way that protects your well-being. Are there any friends, families or counsellors who you can talk to about how you’re feeling? Sometimes, having someone who understands your position can help you feel less alone and might even provide some perspective or advice on how to handle the favoritism you’re experiencing.

If the favoritism and lack of recognition continue to be an issue, it might be worth thinking about whether there are ways to communicate your concerns to your superior or HR in a constructive way. Sometimes, people aren’t aware of how their actions are affecting others, and bringing it to their attention in a calm and professional manner can lead to positive changes.

However, if you find that the environment is consistently affecting your mental and emotional health, it’s important to prioritize your well-being. No job is worth sacrificing your peace of mind, and it’s okay to explore other opportunities if this one isn’t providing you with the respect and recognition you deserve.

In the meantime, take care of yourself and give yourself permission to feel upset and tired—it’s okay to not be okay all the time, especially when dealing with difficult situations. Consider setting small, achievable goals for yourself each day to help you regain a sense of control and accomplishment, even if it’s just one thing at a time.

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