Hi @Anobody,
Thank you for sharing more about what you’re going through. It’s clear that this situation at work is really affecting you, and I’m sorry that you’re feeling so tired and upset. When we put effort into our work and it goes unrecognized, especially if it feels like others are being favored, it’s natural to feel demotivated and question how to keep going.
Feeling like you’re not being respected or treated equally is a really tough position to be in, especially when it’s coming from someone in a position of authority like your superior. It’s understandable that this is weighing heavily on you and affecting your performance—when we don’t feel valued or seen, it can be really hard to stay motivated and engaged.
One thing that might help is to focus on what you can control in this situation. While it’s frustrating when others don’t acknowledge our hard work, it’s important to remember that your worth and value aren’t defined by someone else’s recognition. You know the effort you’re putting in, and it might be helpful to remind yourself of that. Sometimes, shifting the focus to self-validation can help reduce the impact of not getting the external validation we’d like.
It’s also important to consider how you can navigate this situation in a way that protects your well-being. Are there any friends, families or counsellors who you can talk to about how you’re feeling? Sometimes, having someone who understands your position can help you feel less alone and might even provide some perspective or advice on how to handle the favoritism you’re experiencing.
If the favoritism and lack of recognition continue to be an issue, it might be worth thinking about whether there are ways to communicate your concerns to your superior or HR in a constructive way. Sometimes, people aren’t aware of how their actions are affecting others, and bringing it to their attention in a calm and professional manner can lead to positive changes.
However, if you find that the environment is consistently affecting your mental and emotional health, it’s important to prioritize your well-being. No job is worth sacrificing your peace of mind, and it’s okay to explore other opportunities if this one isn’t providing you with the respect and recognition you deserve.
In the meantime, take care of yourself and give yourself permission to feel upset and tired—it’s okay to not be okay all the time, especially when dealing with difficult situations. Consider setting small, achievable goals for yourself each day to help you regain a sense of control and accomplishment, even if it’s just one thing at a time.