I have been struggling with tough emotional burdens and it has affected my mood of how i am with people. I tend to feel a lot and sensibly. The slightest mood change in their voice impactfully hurts me deeply. For instance, i am just about going to my daily routine and suddenly my family brings up about the smallest issue. By that, they raise their voice at me and minutes later they shrug it off as if nothing happened. The words and tone they used hurt me so deeply although the topic was not that serious. Moreover, I have been feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. My feelings about people fluctuate and I always have this need to connect with people emotionally and deeply or else I think they are “mad” at me or “dislike me” in any way. It feels like the entire world is against you and no one is by your side. To add on, all my close relationships have been very distant to me lately. I am not sure what to do. I am taking 3-5 hour naps every day. There is no motivation for me but to study as I have O Levels coming up. I am not financially stable to get a therapist. I don’t want any of my parents to know but I want a diagnosis of my mental state.
Hey @user0928. Thank you for opening up so honestly. It sounds like you’re balancing a lot: there’s the emotional pain, the distant relationships/friendships, and the pressure of O levels. I can really hear how draining and overwhelming this has been for you.
What I also hear is someone who’s deeply reflective and already trying to make sense of what’s happening inside. The fact that you want clarity about your mental health shows how much you care about your well-being. That’s something very brave.
You’ve already taken a big step by reaching out here. Even without a formal diagnosis, it might help to think about what soothes you when emotions feel overwhelming: maybe journaling your thoughts, grounding yourself with breathing, or connecting with someone you trust, even if just for a small check-in. Sometimes the first step isn’t a label or diagnosis, but giving yourself permission to take care of your heart in gentle ways.
And if it ever feels too heavy to carry on your own, a school counsellor might be someone you can turn to. Having someone to process things with can help lighten the load and give you more clarity.
You don’t have to go through this alone, okay? One thing at a time. You’ve got more strength in you than you might realize 
Hey @user0928, it sounds like you’ve been feeling everything very intensely, small changes in someone’s tone or raised voices stick with you, even when others move on. That, plus feeling distant from people you care about, can make it seem like everyone’s against you.
Constantly worrying if people are upset, craving deep connections, and feeling drained is exhausting, especially with O’Levels ahead. Even without a therapist, you can still take steps like using free tools (e.g., Mindline.sg), calling helplines, or trying grounding exercises and journaling.
You’ve already shown strength by opening up here 
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Dear @user0928
Thank you for reaching out and openly sharing the current situation that you are in, which you are facing all on your own. I hear how challenging and lonely it has been for you and it’s fully valid that feelings of overwhelm have arisen. I’m glad you have reached out here. It’s a laudable first step on the path to improve.
Overall, I sense your emotions are constantly on the edge; even small changes in someone’s voice or tone can feel like they cut deeply. That’s probably because your emotional load is heavy and the smallest ripples can feel like waves.
It’s painful and confusing when your family raise their voice over something small and then minutes later they act as if nothing happened. However, you’re still left holding on to the hurt. It’s exhausting when relationships start to feel distant and you find yourself needing reassurance that people still care about you, otherwise it feels like they might be “mad” at you or “dislike” you. It makes sense that this leaves you feeling like the world is against you, especially when you’re already overwhelmed and worn out.
Your long naps, lack of motivation, and emotional ups and downs are signs that your mind and body are being stretched and need care. And while it’s understandable that you want to keep this private from your parents, you still deserve understanding, help, and a safe space to talk and address the issues.
May I suggest that you consider reaching out to Samaritans of Singapore at 1767 or through their text-based service for 24/7, confidential, and non-judgmental support. The National Mindline reachable at 1771, is also available.
Another option is CHAT (Community Health Assessment Team). It provides confidential mental health checks for young persons between 16 and 30 years old, who are currently living in Singapore. They operate CHAT hub, a mental health centre located at *SCAPE and maintains an online presence through their website and webchat.
6493 6500
6493 6501
https://www.chat.mentalhealth.sg/
Writing down your feelings when they hit can help you see patterns and give you something concrete to bring to a counsellor when you’re ready.
Keeping a regular daily routine can help your body and mind establish a rhythm and limiting long naps to shorter rests may improve your nighttime sleep.
I also encourage small, regular check-ins with someone you trust to help you feel more connected and less alone.
Please reach out for professional help soon and continue to seek support here whenever it is needed. Keep chipping away at improving your situation by taking small consistent actions and over time there will be progress.