I usually will hangup call without saying goodbye.My family does this and gradually it becomes a habit My wife says that it is rude to do that and she gets pissed off whenever i does that. Recently i forgot about it and i hangup the call without saying goodbye. She got pissed off and got into angry mode. I apologised to her and say that i had forgotten about it. Then she starts scolding me and say “dun say sorry when you dunno a ■■■■ about it”. This got me pissed off. To be honest i dunno why she has to say such words. I wish that she could be more tolerant of my character.
Hey @user2557 I can sense you feel frustrated that your wife does not give you leniency for the mistake that you’ve made unknowingly. It can be hard to change that habit, since it’s already ingrained for a long period of time.
I’m believe your wife understands that, but she’s angry because perhaps you’ve done so repeatedly. It’s not right for her to hurl expletives, and she likely said it in a fit of anger and did not mean any real harm. I gather from what you’ve said that you want to change that habit too, since you mentioned you accidentally forgot about the habit and apologised for it too.
It may be good to have a conversation with her about it, and if you’re willing to change that habit of yours, you should clearly express it to her through concrete actions. You can start off by keeping a notebook that details each time you’ve hung up without saying goodbye, and attempt to reduce the frequency of doing so. Seeing the effort that you’ve put in to care for her feelings will also strengthen the love she has for you.
Hope this response helps and hope things work out! 
Hey @user2557. I can really feel how this whole thing left you feeling stung. You didn’t mean to upset her, and yet it ended up in a bigger fight than you expected. It’s tough when something that’s just “normal” in your family feels so different to the person you love.
It’s not always easy to switch off something you grew up with. I think the fact that you apologized shows you care about how she feels. I wonder if for her, saying goodbye isn’t just words, but a way of feeling close and acknowledged. For you, hanging up without it might not mean anything at all.
Relationships are full of these tiny cultural differences, and they can feel huge in the moment. If you do want to bridge that gap, maybe you could turn “goodbye” into your own little signature thing with her, even something playful that’s just yours and hers. It could turn into a sweet inside joke instead of a sore point.
You’re not a bad partner for forgetting. You’re just two people learning how to meet in the middle 
Hi @user2557, it sounds like this habit of ending calls without saying goodbye is something you picked up naturally from your family, so it never felt like a big deal to you. But for your wife, it clearly holds more meaning, maybe as a sign of respect or warmth and when it doesn’t happen, she feels upset. I can see how this would be frustrating for both of you as you want her to be more tolerant of your habits, and she wants you to be more mindful of hers.
Her words in the moment may have stung because they went beyond the action itself and touched on your character, which can feel personal and hurtful. It’s normal to want disagreements to be about the behaviour, not about who you are as a person.
Maybe one way forward is to acknowledge that this is important to her and make a conscious effort to pause before hanging up, while also letting her know calmly that hurtful remarks make it harder for you to respond positively. This way, you’re both working on meeting in the middle.