Everything is boring

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Since last year, I have been constantly having existential thoughts like what is even the meaning of life when everything is just repetitive and the cycle repeats everyday. There is no escape from this system.

I feel like I wake up tired and irritated everyday before my day even begins. And after my work, I dont feel relieve but instead dread of the idea of ‘tomorrow’.

I have been eating alone for lunch before I go to work recently. But when I thought that it would be nice to eat with my friends at work, the realisation hit that the conversations do not bring me any joy anymore. The meal with them was… boring. The jokes we used to share is no longer funny to me. Just boring. Even when im the one talking and they were all just listening to me, I just feel bored too.

I have a lack of motivation to do anything outside of work. Or maybe everything is just boring to me? I dont enjoy any of the things that I used to anymore. Shopping, watching movies, holidays, they are all so… boring. Even when my husband brings me out to dinner at the hotel, I dont feel any joy too.

I used to game everyday but recently, it doesnt bring any joy to me anymore. I would get home from work feeling lost. I have no direction anymore. I would be on my phone, swiping up and down, opening apps, closing apps, just playing around with my phone with no purpose.

Sure, perhaps the solution to the boredom is to find new interest.. but I can’t find any motivation to do it. Its just too much effort and honestly nothing is interesting enough for me to even want to try. I went to a baking class and it was so boring too.. I just wished it would end already.

I feel like I can no longer stand people who are cheerful and happy. Because it seems too fake to me. Like what are you even so happy about..? I think my personality might have changed because I have became apathetic and almost cynical. I can no longer relate to the ‘me’ in the past.

Sorry for the long post!

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Dear @User1233

Thank you for sharing how you have been feeling lately. I gather you have been feeling exhausted waking up already tired, and feeling like everything is repetitive. I sense nothing brings you joy anymore. Losing interest in things you once loved and feeling disconnected from people is a very heavy burden to carry.

What you are experiencing suggests you may have been under stress or emotional strain for a long time. This may be contributing to your feeling numb, bored, or detached from things that used to matter.

You do not have to figure this out alone. Since these feelings have been going on for a while, may I gently recommend you speak with a counsellor who can help you process and support you through this period. Meanwhile, please be gentle with yourself as you search for ways to improve your wellbeing.

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hii, thanks for sharing

what you described doesnt really feel like ordinary boredom. when even the things you used to enjoy become really boring, and you just end up doomscrolling instead, it can be a sign that you are burnt out, or emotionally exhausted.

also, it makes sense that cheerful people start to feel fake to u. when you dont feel cheerful, they become less relatable, other people’s happiness can become kinda irritating, because it reminds you of how different you feel from them right now.