how do i pick myself up from this

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i’m in my first job and in the industry that i really enjoy. while there are some areas where i am clearly weaker, i had shown my skillsets in specific areas that my mentor has recognised as well. however recently its been going bad. the thought of resigning has been quite frequent due to the increasing workload despite me working on weekends and after hours. i made several mistakes a couple weeks back as well so its really affecting my entire mindspace. i really want to do well again but despite the hours and efforts i put in, it seems like i still am in this spiral of “bad”… how do i recover from this?

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Hi @userem5

I thank you for reaching out. I have observed how common and normal it is for many among us to experience ups and downs in our first job. Please try not to be discouraged as there are many facets you may not know yet even though you have passion for this industry.

Here are some suggestions to help you recover and get back on track:

Re-evaluate Your Workload

  1. Prioritise tasks: Focus on high-priority tasks and delegate or defer less important ones when possible.
  2. Set realistic goals: Break down large tasks into smaller, manageable chunks, and celebrate your accomplishments.
  3. Communicate with your team: Share your concerns with your mentor or colleagues to see if they can offer support or guidance.

Learn from Mistakes

  1. Analyze what went wrong: Reflect on the mistakes you made and identify the root causes.
  2. Develop a plan to improve: Create a plan to prevent similar mistakes in the future.
  3. Practice self-compassion: Remember that everyone makes mistakes, and it’s an opportunity to learn and grow.

Manage Stress and Burnout

  1. Take breaks: Make time for activities that bring you joy and help you relax.
  2. Establish a work-life balance: Set clear boundaries between your work and personal life.
  3. Seek support: Talk to friends, family, or a mental health professional if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

Refocus on Your Strengths

  1. Celebrate your successes: Reflect on your accomplishments and the skills you’ve demonstrated.
  2. Seek feedback: Ask your mentor or colleagues for constructive feedback on your strengths and areas for improvement.
  3. Develop a growth plan: Create a plan to build on your strengths and address areas where you’d like to improve.

I hope it helps when I share that it’s normal to experience setbacks, but it’s how you respond that matters. Take a step back, reassess your situation, and focus on making progress, not perfection. With consistent effort and keeping open to learning and continuously improving, it will get better! :heart:

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thank you! will try to work on the points you mentioned and probably… try to be more open-minded and kinder to myself :")