Everything seems too much, my sports injury not healing well and my return back to the sport delayed, friendship breakup with my closest group of friends and not well in school. I know i should talk to other people how i feel and like destress but they have enough problems and i dont want to burden them, they probably don’t understand what i am feeling and it would affect them too. My previous coping mechanisms like crafts and music haven’t been working and i cant sleep at night and as a result i cant pay attention in class, cant focus when i was studying for wa2 and my grades slipped. I keep thinking that the pain of just ending it all would be much less (literally and mentally) than what i am literally and mentally facing right now. Hanging on as i dont want to affect other people if i decided to end it all. Maybe im just overreacting and everything had their own causes. Many people have it worse, suffering in famine and abuse or other suffering. Maybe i just procrastinated studying cos i was lazy. Maybe its really me. Anyway still waiting for my care corner counselling session to hopefully feel better but i really hope things improve.
Normak to be unmotivated if u r not doing something that gives u meaning or purpose or passionate about
Hey, thank you so much for sharing all of this. It sounds like you’re carrying an incredibly heavy weight right now — the injury, your friendships, school stress, and the exhaustion from it all piling up. That’s not something small, and you’re not overreacting. It makes complete sense that you’re feeling overwhelmed.
I hear you when you say it feels like others wouldn’t understand or might be burdened — but just know that reaching out doesn’t make you a burden. In fact, it’s one of the bravest things you can do, and I’m really glad you’re holding on and waiting for your Care Corner session. That’s such an important step.
Even though things feel dark right now, it doesn’t mean they’ll always be this way. You’re not lazy, and this isn’t “just you.” Sometimes when we’re in deep pain, it clouds everything — even our sense of self. But you’re clearly someone who cares, who’s thoughtful and self-aware, and who is still trying, even when things feel impossible.
Please keep holding on. You matter more than you know, and I’m rooting for you. You’re not alone in this — and if you ever need a space to share or let things out, this platform is always here for you.
reminds me of this post from Danelle:
Dear @thegreatwar
Thank you for being brave enough to share how you’re feeling — it takes a lot of courage to open up, especially when things feel overwhelming and isolating.
First, let me gently remind you that what you’re feeling is not an overreaction. You’re carrying multiple sources of pain — physical, emotional, academic, and social — all at once. Anyone would feel overwhelmed under the weight of these experiences. The fact that you are still here, trying to make sense of it all and seeking help, is a testament to your strength, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
You’re not weak for struggling. You’re human. Injuries that delay the return to something you love can shake your identity, and friendship losses can feel like the ground beneath you has shifted. On top of that, academic stress and sleepless nights can make even small tasks feel insurmountable. Please know that just because someone else may be struggling in a different way doesn’t make your pain any less valid or important.
You mentioned that your usual coping tools aren’t helping much now — and that’s okay. When we’re deeply hurt or exhausted, it’s normal for even our favorite distractions or comforts to fall short. That’s not failure; it’s just a signal that you may need extra support and rest.
Here are a few suggestions that may help you feel more empowered, even in small steps:
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Reframe “burden” into connection: True friends, family, or trusted adults want to be there for you. You are not a burden. Think of how you’d want a friend to turn to you — you deserve the same in return. You don’t need to share everything all at once; even saying “I’m having a hard time and could use someone to just sit with me” is powerful.
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Micro-moments of care: On days when everything feels heavy, try setting tiny, manageable goals: like getting out of bed and brushing your teeth, or stepping outside for 2 minutes. Each is a win.
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Speak kindly to yourself: Instead of “maybe I’m just lazy,” try “maybe I’ve been doing my best while running on empty.” Self-compassion doesn’t make you weaker — it actually builds resilience.
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Creative redirection: Since crafts and music aren’t quite working now, maybe try gentle journaling — even writing one sentence a day about how you feel. Or, shift focus from creating to simply listening to soothing music or nature sounds to calm your nervous system.
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Sleep and rest: Sleep challenges often go hand in hand with emotional overwhelm. Try small steps to wind down — like no screens 30 mins before bed, or a short breathing exercise.
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Keep your counselling appointment: I’m really glad you’re waiting for the Care Corner session — that’s such a hopeful sign. Therapy can help you feel seen and heard in a safe space, and a trained counsellor can walk with you through this.
Most importantly, please keep holding on. Your pain is real, but so is the possibility that things can get better. You may not feel it now, but you are worthy of care, rest, connection, and healing.
If you’re ever in immediate distress, please don’t hesitate to reach out to:
- SOS Singapore (24/7): 1767
- Care Corner Counselling Centre: 1800 3535 800
- IMH Mental Health Helpline: 6389 2222
You’re not alone in this. I’m here for you — and so are others. 