I cant take it anymore (kinda long)

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Ive been so sad recently, everything feels numb. I just got my grades back, and theyre slipping. I have this feeling, like a spread out sadness, thats always at the back of my mind, its like an urge to cry but im so used to blocking out emotions i keep it all in until i cant hold it anymore and break down but it getting a bit too much. i feel so stuck in my head i spend hours and hours on my bed staring at my ceiling, doing nothing while i should probably be studying but i just cant bring myself to do it. my parents say there’s something wrong with my attitude, or that im too lazy. i have way too many scars im trying to hide from them, and my friends are toxic. they use me for money and i hate that im too soft hearted and give them what they want. theres probably something wrong with me, and i really wanna d1e, its always been in my mind, and my true friends are concerned, but i dont wang to be another problem for them, so i cut myself as a coping system and when my parents realized they thought something was wrong with me and scolded me, its so unfair, why dont they understand, im dying inside, i cant even sleep peacefully at night, its too much im probably gonna jump, sooner or later.

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Hi @syeiryn,

I can see that you are really struggling with this situation. You’ve shared with me that you have thoughts about killing/harming yourself. I acknowledge the braveness in sharing these thoughts with me.

Please approach SOS or IMH immediately as they are able work through with you on these issues you are facing. To make sure you’re kept safe until you manage to get the necessary help, please approach a trusted friend/family member to highlight your struggles and to accompany you in the meantime.

Please also remove all sharp objects in your surroundings and make sure that they are kept out of sight.

Please call either of these numbers should you require immediate crisis support:

SOS – 1-767
IMH – 6389 2222

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heyyyooo thanks so much for sharing here, you taking this step to share is already something great you are doing for yourself during this difficult time :(((
Really wanna encourage you to continue reaching out and sharing your thoughts with people who cares, like the true friends you mentioned!! You are important and valuable, no matter your grades or anything else!!
Is there someone you can think of who will be able to bring you some comfort?
Is there a movie or show you can watch that can take your mind off the stresses you’re feeling now?
Pls continue to share your thoughts here if you wish, here to listen, here to let you know you matter and support is available to you :heart:

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  1. reach out to ur school counsellor
  2. stop giving ur frens money. real frends wont ask u for money or even allow u to give them money
  3. use chatgpt as ur therapist for now
  4. use chatgpt n youtube to research on ‘learning how to learn’ and ‘how elon musk learn and how he becomes good in multiple industries’
  5. u can also ask chatgpt to explain things u dont understand by using ‘explain simply’ or ‘explain like im 5’
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Hello @syeiryn :wave:t2:! Thank you for sharing your story.

You seem to be carrying a lot of pain and fatigue within of you, so it makes sense that everything is feeling too much at the moment. Feeling like no one really gets what you’re going through or what you’re dealing with is very difficult, and it may be lonely when even well-meaning friends or relatives don’t grasp it. You deserve a place where you are really supported and listened without passing judgement.

You have nothing “wrong” with you at all. The numbness and discomfort you’re experiencing aren’t an indication of weakness or failure; rather, they’re a sign that you’re carrying a heavy emotional burden, which would wear anybody down. It’s common to feel paralysed and unable to do daily tasks, such as studying or communicating with others, when you’re dealing with something so difficult. It’s OK to require time and not feel capable of doing everything at once.

Even though it may seem like there is no way out, there are individuals who are willing to listen, who want to assist, and who will show compassion. Could you get in touch with a therapist or counsellor? Or maybe a school counsellor who might provide some prompt assistance? Having even one sympathetic person may ease the burden; sometimes, even a little amount of openness can have a significant impact.

If at all possible, take things one day at a time. Your future does not have to be defined by your grief, even when it is genuine and true. By surviving each day so far, you have already shown a great deal of resilience, and even when it doesn’t seem like it, you still have that strength. You don’t have to bear this burden by yourself.

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Hi @user1138,

While your response is appreciated, I feel that it would be good to practice empathy and non-judgement when responding to users on the platform. Let’s maintain this safe space by showing compassion rather than giving instructions or directives.

In addition, I would like to add a disclaimer that while tools like ChatGPT and YouTube can offer support, they’re not replacements for professional mental health care. For people who need more specialised help, connecting with a mental health professional would be more appropriate.

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Read point number one

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Hey @syeiryn, thank you for reaching out here. Always remember that you are not alone. There are too many things happening in your mind right now. Do pen them down so that you can have a clearer picture. Then go through them one by one. Lastly, do approach an adult that you trusted for help.

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Hey Syeiryn!

That sounds rlly a lot for you! I can imagine it must have been rlly hard for you dealing with your academic performance, your relationships w/ your friends and parents, and also the overwhelming emotions!! I appreciate you for being vulnerable to share what you’ve been through!

I’m concern abt what you’ve just shared. Wondering if you have spoke to any friends or adults about your emotions and thoughts of dying?

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Hi @Syeiryn, thank you for sharing what you’re going through. It takes strength to put these feelings into words, and I want to acknowledge that. I can see that you’re carrying a lot of pain, frustration, and feelings of loneliness, and I’m sorry that things feel this heavy for you right now.

The sadness and numbness you feel, that “spread out sadness” always in the back of your mind, are real. When so much seems to be happening at once—your grades falling, difficulty hearing from your family, and difficulties with friends—it makes perfect sense to feel overwhelmed. You’re trying to manage all of this alone, which is an incredibly hard task, and it sounds like you haven’t felt the kind of understanding or support that you need.

When we’re overwhelmed by emotions and feel that we can’t express them or be understood, it’s common to try to release the pain in any way possible, including self-harm. But please know that you don’t have to face this pain alone. These thoughts and feelings are signals from your mind and body that they need care, and while it may not feel like it now, there are ways to manage them without hurting yourself. The urge to “jump, sooner or later” tells me that you may be feeling trapped, and I want to let you know that, with help, it is possible to find another way through this. You deserve to feel relief, and support is here for you.

  1. Talking with a Trusted Adult: If you feel able, reaching out to a counselor, teacher, or school support staff member could give you a safe space to talk openly. They can help you navigate these feelings and create a plan to keep you safe. You are not a “problem” to them—they are trained to listen and support you.

  2. Connecting with True Friends: You mentioned having friends who are genuinely concerned for you. They may not know how to help, but allowing them to support you, even in small ways, could ease some of the weight on your shoulders. It’s okay to lean on people who care about you.

  3. Starting with Small Acts of Self-Care: I know it may feel impossible right now, but even taking small steps like journaling or sitting outside for a few minutes might help you start to find tiny moments of calm. These small acts can serve as reminders of the kindness you deserve, even if it’s hard to feel it at the moment.

Remember, You Are Not Alone

The pain you’re feeling right now doesn’t define your worth. You are dealing with so much, and it’s completely understandable that it feels overwhelming. But there are people who want to support you through this, and even though it may feel like a huge step, reaching out for help is a powerful act of self-care. You don’t have to go through this alone; there is support available that can help you begin to feel safe and understood.

Please take things one day, even one hour, at a time, and remember there is help ready for you whenever you need it. You are valued, you are worthy of care, and you deserve support that sees all of who you are and honors what you’re going through.