I’ve been to a few funerals for my family members and friends and though I was close to them, I just wouldn’t cry. I don’t know why. Duri graduation while all my friends were cryi ng and hugging each other, I just couldn’t cry. It’s was like I wanted to cry but just couldn’t. Afterwards, my heart will just start hurting. From time to time, this pain would come and go and then I’ll feel like crying again but can’t.
However, it’s not like I can’t cry for other things. In fact I cry for tho my s most people won’t. When I’m forced to face my fears, I don’t meet expectations for exams or get injured badly.
Recently, I’ve felt that some of my friends have been ignoring me a little. Idk if I’m over reacting or not, but listening to their problems and them not listening to mine makes me sad and lonely. I try to be happy and enjoy time with them, but sometimes it can be a bit frustrating to see them dismiss my concerns. I can’t really tell anyone about this since I’ll be talking about my friends and I also don’t need my parents to know about my problems. Sometimes I want to scream and cry but I can’t, it feels like everything is bottled inside and I can’t get it out so it just makes my chest ache.
Basically I can’t seem to cry for the things I want to cry for but am fine in doing so for not as serious matters. Also just to clarify, I like my friends, they’re great people and we have been through a lot together, this is just a small thing and I haven’t told anyone yet.
Hi user1427
Thank you coming forward with your experiences and bravely seeking help to improve the situation. I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I believe there is emotional numbing, delayed emotional response, and unexplained emotional expression at times. I also sense you are feeling alone and due to pent up emotions it is leading to chest ache symptoms.
I agree there is a lot going on and it is understandable and valid that you are feeling overwhelmed. Please take comfort that these can be overcome with you taking small steps. May I suggest :
- Self-reflection: Explore reasons behind emotional numbing. What are your fears, and what are alternative ways of interpreting the issues you are facing that could possibly reduce the fears?
- Journaling: Write down thoughts, feelings, and concerns.
- Trusted support: Consider talking to a school counsellor or therapist.
- Communicate openly: Share feelings with friends, set boundaries. I can sense your friends care.
- Emotional release: Engage in activities helping you express emotions (e.g., writing, art, exercise).
- Self care: Set aside time to do activities you enjoy and nourish your body and spirit. Take stock of your achievements and how much you have overcome despite the many obstacles and challenges you have faced.
Please know that you are precious and unique and it’s 100% normal to feel and explore emotions. Remember, exploring emotions takes immense courage so keep going and find yourself getting stronger each day. 