Everything around me seems fake and I feel detached from reality. I feel the constant pressure to do better even though I know I can’t. I don’t feel satisfied with my current self. I’ve had times when everything around me literally seemed straight out of the backrooms and my mind was so out of it. I think I might have DPDR but I’m scared to talk to my parents about it or seek help from an adult. Please help I feel like I’m loosing myself
Hi user4341
I’m sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing and the feelings you are presently experiencing. Thank you for courageously seeking help.
You mentioned you feel constantly under pressure and feel detached from reality. Please know the feeling of being overwhelmed by constant pressure to do better is valid and understandable. Many of us undergo this feeling of inadequacy from time to time and it can be overcome, so please do not be discouraged.
I encourage you to take stock of your current situation. I gather you are a student and the stress and pressure is arising from school. Are there particular subjects that you are struggling with, and if so, what steps can you take to address the doubts. Approach the relevant school teachers and set up consults to address these problem topics and subjects. Please do not lose hope, you can address the gaps with your proactive attitude and determination.
In addition, I encourage you to set your own goals which are more reasonable, realistic and attainable. Take small steps daily to work on areas you are currently struggling with. Focus on what you can control, take relevant actions and slowly you would make progress.
Once you are ready to, I believe speaking to your school counsellor may be helpful as well to accurately diagnose what you are experiencing. Counsellors provide a safe and non-judgmental space and can help arm you with the necessary tools and techniques to better manage your feelings and achieve your goals.
Here are some other steps you can consider:
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s important to recognize and validate your feelings. You’re experiencing something real and difficult, and acknowledging it is the first step.
Grounding Techniques: These can help you stay connected to the present moment. Simple techniques include focusing on your breathing, touching objects around you to feel their texture, or engaging in activities that require concentration, like drawing or solving a puzzle.
Journal Your Thoughts: Writing down your feelings can help you understand them better. It can also be a way to track when these feelings are more intense and what might be triggering them.
Practice Self-Care: Taking care of your physical health can positively impact your mental health. This includes eating well, getting enough sleep, and exercising.
Limit Stressors: Try to identify and reduce the sources of stress in your life. Break tasks into smaller, more manageable pieces, and take breaks when needed.
Consider Talking to Someone: It is understandable that talking to your parents feels scary currently, so is there another trusted person you can confide in ? That trusted person could help you figure out your next steps.
Remember, it’s okay to seek help, and you’re not alone in this. You deserve to feel better, and taking these steps can guide you towards that path. 
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Thank you so much, I will try talking to the school counsellor maybe this week
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