It’s not that I don’t have friends It’s just that I wish I had someone who’d check up on me or text me throughout the day? I tried to fill that hole by dating but after this most recent breakup I just get that wave of loneliness all over again. I feel so lonely when I see my friends hang out with their other friends whenever they want but I can’t because my close friends are all busy.
I feel like I’m too needy and desire more than what a friendship can really provide.
I get the feeling. Even people who used to be close to me stopped texting me unless I & only I make the first move to text them first. Most of the people who try to keep in touch with me turn out to be from careers that require finding people to Hard Sell to. Not many people who made the first move were genuinely interested in maintaining a friendship with me.
Being busy is not an excuse for not checking in on you. Even if people are occupied, it doesn’t kill to spend 1-2min to send a message asking “hi how’s things” etc. Difference in interests isn’t an excuse either. There’s probably something you & your friends can still talk about.
What happened in your last relationship & how have you been coping with the breakup?
Hi @user139956
It sounds like you’re wanting someone to check in, and who feels woven into your everyday life.
After the breakup, the loneliness might feel sharper, especially when you see others together or busy with their lives. That can feel heavy in a quiet way.
I noticed you described yourself as “too needy.” That sounds painful, almost like you’re turning the ache for closeness and presence against yourself. Wanting someone to show up for you is very human.
When you think about all of this, what feels the heaviest?
Amazing and is interesting