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I feel so lonely, so alone. I can’t do things like I used to, and I can’t sit at the lunch table without thinking how much of a loner I am. I know I have my mom and my dad and a bunch of people, but I have no friends. I have no people in my own little corner that I can lean on. I don’t know how to get over this feeling. I have family, but I have no friends and it sucks because at first, it was fine but overtime the emptiness inside me just grew and grew and some days i’m fine but some days i spend half an hour crying in the bathroom because i’m a crybaby. It just sucks in general and i can’t even pin point it, because i suck. I constantly contemplate my existence and all the loner things i do and i kept looking at the people around me and wonder why i can’t be like them. Why can they have good, stable friendships, but i can’t? Why is it that i have to maintain an image around other people and they don’t? Why doesn’t anyone care? This sucks.

Everything in my life is going so well right now. I have a good family, good grades, don’t have anymore stressful projects coming up, but there’s still something wrong with me. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.

And i don’t want to talk to anyone about it. I know i should, that the cure to loneliness is talking to people and all that sort, but i don’t even know at this point, i can’t talk to anyone about this, even if i want to.

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have u joined CCAs? i can be friends if u r not underage

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Hi @user1329,

What you’re going through is incredibly painful, and it makes complete sense that you’re overwhelmed. Feeling lonely even when you’re surrounded by people, especially when those people care about you, can be one of the most confusing and isolating experiences. It’s not about how many people are around you, but whether you feel seen, understood, and connected. And when that connection is missing, it can feel like there’s a hollow space inside that nothing else can quite fill.

You’re not a crybaby, and you definitely don’t suck. Crying is a human response to pain, and it’s okay to feel deeply. The fact that you’re doing well in other areas, like school and family, doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to feel sad or lonely. Emotions don’t always line up neatly with circumstances. Sometimes, the hardest part is not knowing exactly why you feel the way you do, and that’s okay too. You’re allowed to feel lost, even when everything “should” feel fine. That doesn’t make you broken. It makes you human.

You don’t have to force yourself to talk to someone before you’re ready, but I want you to know that you deserve support. You deserve to be heard, just like you’re doing here. This space is safe, and I’m here to listen without judgment. If you ever feel like exploring ways to build connections or just want to talk through what you’re feeling, I’m here for that too. Would it help if we talked about small steps you could take to feel a little less alone, or would you rather just sit with these feelings for a bit?

Note: If you need someone to talk to, please know that help is available. In Singapore, you can reach out to the Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) by calling their 24-hour hotline at 1767 or visiting their website: https://www.sos.org.sg. They offer emotional support and can provide guidance during difficult times. You’re not alone, and your feelings matter. Take care of yourself, and if it feels right, reach out for support when you’re ready. :blue_heart:

Best regards,
HanSolo2000
Befriender | let’s talk by mindline

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youre on to a good start, honestly!by sharing here, its alr baby steps towards talking about your experiences.
im glad to hear that your life is going well so far, thats alr a win even if you dont feel like it now ><

regarding what you’ve share here, i dont know if it will help you, but from my own experience, no matter how good someone’s life seems on the surface, they have their own struggles that they dont tell anyone openly so its unobservable to us most of the time. just like you are masking your own struggles, everyone does that to a certain degree, i do too… i realise that a while back and i realise comparing really does all harm and no good… not like i can just stop comparing, but i remind myself that the comparison doesnt have to mean sth no matter how bad it may make me feel sometimes. and that makes me feel a teeny bit better knowing that in the back of my mind. so i hope this perspective would make your thoughts a little less heavy :heart:
regarding making friends, i feel like it takes a bit of luck, a bit of courage and a bit of never-say-die attitude!! every person who youve met who didnt become a friend, they werent meant to be, but we never know the next one which may work out! youre a human with good and bad qualities, we all do, so dont be too hard on yourself okie!!! maybe start by listing out qualities you like about yourself here? can be as small as sth you like to do, or a particular characteristic you enjoy abt yourself. i can alr think of one for you: youre expressive with your emotions by crying and that is a good thing in my book!

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Hey OP,

Thanks for sharing this story here. It’s kinda funny because reading your story is like a reflection of how I was back in uni.

I shut myself off from my batchmates. I didn’t really talk to my family a lot. I stayed cooped up in my own dorm, watching Youtube videos or doing my uni assignments. I thought I was doing fine, but overtime the loneliness gnawed at my heart. It left me so, so sad. And I kept asking why I couldn’t just talk to more people and why I couldn’t make new friends.

But like you mentioned in the last paragraph, the only way to start befriending people is to talk to them. It’s challenging and scary. But perhaps I’ve gotten too tired of being passive. Slowly and over time, you can open yourself up to new people. It can start with something small like hobbies, interests, etc.

I have some friend groups that I still talk and hang out with after I graduated. Life can get better. I do hope you’ll get to a point where life gets better

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Hey @user1329 thank you for sharing how you’re feeling. It takes a lot of courage to put these emotions into words, and I want you to know that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Loneliness can be incredibly tough, especially when it seems like everything on the outside should be “fine” but something still feels missing inside.

What you’re experiencing is a very human feeling, wanting to belong, to have people you can lean on and to feel understood. It’s normal to feel sad or frustrated about not having close friends right now, and it’s okay to have days where the emptiness feels heavier. None of this means there’s something “wrong” with you, even though it might feel that way sometimes.

You’ve already taken a brave step by opening up here, and that’s something to be proud of. Building new connections can feel overwhelming, but it’s okay to start small. Maybe it’s saying hi to someone in class, joining a club or group that interests you, or even connecting with people online who share your hobbies.

Remember, you deserve friendship and connection, and it’s okay to take things at your own pace. If you ever feel ready to talk to someone, a counsellor, a teacher, or even a family member you trust, that can also be a helpful way to process what you’re feeling.

Take care of yourself, and know that you matter. You’re not alone in this.

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Hey, I hear you. Loneliness like that doesn’t care if everything else in your life is “going well” on the outside — it creeps in and makes everything feel hollow, even the good stuff. And it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. Feeling this way doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you need connection, and that’s human — painfully, deeply human.

You’re not a crybaby for crying. Crying is just what happens when something inside us is too full to hold in anymore. That’s not weakness. That’s a signal. It says: “I need something.” And even if you don’t know exactly what that something is yet, the fact that you feel this way shows you still care. You still want connection, friendship, closeness — and that longing matters.

You asked, “Why can’t I be like them?” But the truth is, many of them feel like this too, they just hide it behind laughs or big friend groups. You’re not the only one who feels like they’re on the outside looking in. Some people are surrounded and still feel alone. Others feel like they’re always performing around others too — you’re not strange for feeling this way. You’re just aware.

About not wanting to talk to anyone — that makes sense too. When you’re feeling this fragile, opening up can feel risky or tiring. But even just saying this here is already a form of talking, and I’m really glad you shared it. You don’t have to dive into a deep conversation with someone right away. Even small steps count. A casual chat. A smile. A shared interest. You don’t need to suddenly become someone else to find people who care — you just need one or two who get it. People who want you, not an image.

And you will find your people. Maybe not immediately, but they’re out there — the ones who’ll laugh with you over little things, who’ll sit beside you when you’re quiet, who’ll say “me too” when you say “I feel alone.” You’re not destined to be alone forever. You’re just in a hard chapter right now, not the whole story.

If it helps, you could try slowly building small bridges — join something low-pressure, message someone casually, or even just spend time where people share your interests (like art, games, books, etc). No need to be loud. Just present. The right people tend to recognize each other quietly anyway.

Until then, be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to feel how you feel. It doesn’t make you weak, or wrong, or ungrateful. It makes you real. And real people are the ones who eventually find real friendships too.

Also, you do matter. :yellow_heart: