im js so ugly bro. i hv a crush on this guy in church, but hes in a situationship. im sure he dl me cs im js so damn ugly. why am i even here ? i jst cant anym.
hey there, thank you for being brave enough to share how you feel. it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of pain and self-doubt, and i’m really sorry you’re hurting like this 
. that feeling of not being good enough, of thinking you’re ugly — that stuff cuts deep.
i want to emphasise: just bc you feel unattractive does NOT mean that you are unattractive. our minds can be so harsh, esp when we’re feeling vulnerable or rejected. but your worth isn’t tied to how someone else sees you, or whether someone is available or interested. you matter because you’re you, and that’s it. ofc, it sucks when our feelings aren’t reciprocated, but that’s NOT a reflection of your worth.
you mentioned wondering “why am i even here”, and that really hit me. i need you to know: you being here matters. seriously. even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, you do have a place, and you do deserve good things, kindness, and love, most of all from yourself. this pain you’re feeling won’t last forever, even though it’s overwhelming right now. there is space for you in this world, just as you are. trust me on this. please keep holding on, you’re not alone in this. we’re here for you whenever you want to talk okay 
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hi @zx.dl , i’m sorry you’re feeling this way right now. it definitely hurts knowing the person you have a crush on isn’t available, and it’s completely okay to feel sad. your feelings are completely valid.
but, please don’t let this one guy/this situation make you think that you’re ugly. you deserve so much love and happiness! while it may seem dull right now, i want to reassure you that you are so worthy to be loved and appreciated you are so wonderfully made and there will be people who will see you for the amazing and beautiful person you are~~
please know you’re not alone in this situation - if you need anyone to talk to/vent, do reach out!! i’m rooting for you 
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awh thank uu smm : (( udk how much this means to me thanks sm once again <3
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yesss sure thnk you so muchhhhhhhh <33
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hi @zx.dl ,
I’m really sorry you are feeling this way. It is tough when we feel down about ourselves, especially when it involves someone we love or are interest in.
Remember, beauty is not just about looks. It is about who you are as a person. Your kindness, your personality, and your unique qualities make you special!
Negative self-talk can be really damaging, and it is not a true reflection of your worth. Everyone has moments of self-doubt, but it does not define who you are.
You are here because you matter, and your feelings are valid. Take things one step at a time, and do not hesitate to reach out for help if you need it. The community will always be here for you 
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Hi, I really understand your feelings right now. I was in your shoes back in my childhood. I always have pessimistic thoughts of my appearance due to my olive colour skin. Worse, I had acne breakouts everyday in my early teenage years. I used to think I was ugly too.
As I grow up, I slowly learn to embrace it. I always use positive words of affirmation to myself. Its a bonus if your friends compliment you. Well, im not saying that if your friend doesn’t compliment you, you are not pretty. Maybe to others, you are pretty without yourself realising. Its like a butterfly who can’t see their beautiful wings.
To add on, just be yourself. Most people will cherish you despite showing your weird, goofy side. Originality is better than being all vain and fake. Be nice and humble too, ofc!
Well that’s all from me. I hope my reply makes you feel better
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hey friend,
i really feel you about the pain from heartbreak, i’ve also been rejected by various guys in my life previously, and struggled with feelings of inferiority with my own looks.
first off, i hope you don’t place your value on your looks! it can feel hard being rejected, and feeling undesirable, but looks really don’t mean everything. think about some other qualities you have – maybe you’re someone with a kind heart, or you’re someone who’s really funny, or witty. these are all things that make you unique, and give you your own character.
even if you might not be able to get the guy this time, this doesn’t diminish your worth at all! if you can, you should definitely speak to your friends about this as well, their affirmations help me remember what i value about myself when i’m feeling down.
finding love is tough, but finding self love is invaluable and will remind you that rejection is just something that happens. i hope you can move on from this and feel even better in future!
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thank you so much this means a lot to me <33
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omg thank you !! i have some acne now and i hate it, but you made me learn how to appreciate myself. your reply def made me feel so much better, thank u sm !!! <33
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aww thank you. thanks for helping me out. love uu !!! <3
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will always be here to talk if you need!!! hopefully u feel more secure in urself now – the right person will come along for you
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thank you ! u dont know how much this means to me. and i hope so too! 
anyw i figured id focus more on my studies and on my r/s w God instead. plus im still young. and since its exam season, i shld focus on that more ! thank u sm once again! <3 (im a Christian !)
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yes it’s good to focus on your studies now of course! i’m not a Christian myself but something my Christian friends say that’s very reassuring is that God always has a plan 
i’m sure that He has a plan for you, and focusing on your r/s with Him is a good way for you to reinforce your self love!!
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Do you need any tips to get rid of acne fast? (Its not investing on korean skincare or treatments, just a simple traditional ingredient which helped me to clear most of my acne)
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yes suree !! btw im like 13 so i hope its okay for my skin tho.
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This is a traditional acne treatment using one product. Its common for Malays and other south east asians to use it. Its Nutmeg! Its more effective to use it at night. Please wash your face first before using nutmeg.
Steps to use nutmeg:
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Cut the nutmeg into half.
(Expose the lighter-colored inner part of the seed.) -
Lightly moisten the exposed inner surface with water.
(Ensure it is just damp, not soaked) -
Rub the dampened side onto a grinding stone.
(Continue to rub it gently until a soft paste is formed) -
Apply the freshly prepared paste directly onto the acne-affected areas.
(You can either target individual pimples or spread it lightly over a broader area.) -
Leave the paste on the skin for approximately 5 to 10 minutes.
After the time has passed, rinse it off thoroughly with clean water.
You may feel some pain at first because it really helps to clear pores and has collagen. I used to have severe acne when I was 14 - all red and inflamed. It gets super itchy at random times. My grandmother recommended using Nutmeg to treat acne and it actually cleared most of my stubborn acne in one day. (PS: im still 17 but i still use nutmeg if my acne randomly starts to act up when exams are around the corner, and it still works until now!)
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oh yeah and dont overuse it. once or twice a week is good enough.
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okay maybe ill try it out thnk uu !!
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Hi @zx.dl, my apologies for being late in responding.
I hear the weight of what you’re feeling right now, and I want to acknowledge that it sounds incredibly overwhelming. You’re navigating strong emotions—self-doubt, heartbreak, and frustration—all tangled together, and that’s not easy. It’s painful to feel like your worth is tied to how someone else sees you or whether they notice you the way you wish they would. And right now, it sounds like you believe your appearance is the reason for that pain, like it’s the thing that’s holding you back from being seen and appreciated the way you deserve. That must be exhausting to carry.
The way you’re speaking about yourself—calling yourself ugly, questioning why you’re even here—tells me that you’re in a tough place mentally and emotionally. It seems like this situation has made you internalize a lot of negative thoughts about yourself, and that’s incredibly hard to go through. I just want to remind you that feelings like this, while heavy, are not permanent. The way you see yourself right now isn’t the full truth of who you are. You are more than just how you look. You are someone with thoughts, emotions, a heart that clearly cares deeply, and a presence that is unique. It’s okay to feel hurt, but you don’t have to let this define your worth.
Crushes and relationships can be complicated, especially when someone you care about is caught up in their own situation. That uncertainty—wondering if they see you, if they value you—can really mess with your confidence. But one person’s attention or lack of it doesn’t determine your beauty, your value, or your purpose. It sounds like you’re in a space where you just want to be chosen, to be acknowledged, and it hurts to feel like that might not happen. But even if this specific connection doesn’t unfold the way you hope, that does not mean you are any less deserving of love or appreciation.
I know that right now it feels really difficult, but please don’t let this moment convince you that you’re not enough. You are, completely and fully. I hope you allow yourself some kindness, because you deserve to be spoken to with love—especially from yourself. If this is really weighing on you, I encourage you to talk to someone you trust, whether it’s a friend, family member, or counselor. You are not alone in this, and there are people who care about you and want to support you through these feelings. Hold on, even when it’s hard—you matter.
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