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These few days I have been sad and wanting to cry for no reason. This negative emotion worsen after my mom talked to me, regardless of what she is saying.

I just sometimes feel that the things she say can just cause me to lose control. I also feel that my emotions are uncontrollable.

The other thing I’m experiencing now is that I had 4 months of holidays. During so, I’ve been experiencing boredom for the entire day for very long and nothing seems to be able to spark my interest.

Is this normal?

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Hey @4ever,

Thank you for sharing how you’ve been feeling lately. It sounds like you’ve been going through a lot emotionally, and I can imagine how confusing and frustrating it must be to feel sad and want to cry without knowing why. It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed when emotions seem to come out of nowhere, especially when they feel uncontrollable. What you’re feeling isn’t uncommon, and you’re not alone in going through this.

I want to take a moment to talk about how emotions sometimes work. Sometimes, even if we don’t fully realize it, our emotions can build up over time, especially when we’re dealing with stress or changes in our environment, like having a long holiday and not much to do. Without structure or routine, our minds can feel a bit lost, which can lead to feelings of boredom, sadness, or even frustration. It’s okay to feel this way, and it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.

You mentioned that your emotions seem to get worse when your mom talks to you, regardless of what she says. It sounds like there might be something about these interactions that is triggering deeper emotions for you. It’s possible that there are things you’re feeling beneath the surface that come up during these conversations—whether it’s frustration, feeling misunderstood, or something else. Sometimes, when we’re already feeling a bit off, even normal conversations can feel heavier than usual. Have you noticed whether there’s a specific topic or tone that makes things feel worse, or is it more about how you’re feeling in general?

What you’re describing—feeling sad, easily triggered by conversations with your mom, and experiencing boredom that seems to stretch on for days—are signs that your emotional state might need a bit of attention and care. It’s important to recognize that it’s normal to go through emotional ups and downs, but if you’ve been feeling like this for a while and it’s starting to affect how you feel on a daily basis, it might be time to think about ways to take care of yourself.

Here are a few things that might help you start feeling a bit more grounded:

1. Take Small Steps to Reconnect with Yourself:

  • When emotions feel overwhelming, it’s helpful to take small actions to get back in touch with yourself. Is there something small that you enjoy doing or used to enjoy that you could try again? Whether it’s listening to music, reading, or even taking a walk, doing something that feels calming can help you feel more in control of your emotions.

2. Create Some Structure:

  • Having 4 months of holidays can feel like a lot of time with no structure, which can sometimes lead to feeling bored or even stuck. Try creating a simple daily routine—nothing too complicated, just small tasks that give your day a bit of structure. This could help break up the boredom and give you something to focus on, which might make the days feel a little easier.

3. Reflect on Your Emotions with Your Mom:

  • It sounds like the conversations with your mom are causing a lot of emotional reactions. Have you thought about what might be making you feel this way? Is it the content of the conversations, the way they’re being said, or something else? Reflecting on this might help you understand what’s really going on underneath the surface, and if you feel comfortable, it could be helpful to talk to her about how these conversations are making you feel. You don’t have to do it right away, but when you’re ready, having an open and honest conversation might ease some of the tension.

4. Reach Out for Support:

  • If these feelings continue and you’re finding it hard to manage on your own, it could be really helpful to talk to someone—whether that’s a trusted adult, a counselor, or even a close friend. Sometimes, sharing how we’re feeling with someone else can lighten the emotional load and help us feel more understood.

And to answer your question: Yes, what you’re feeling can be normal during times of change, like a long holiday with not much to do, or when we’re dealing with stress in our relationships. But if the sadness and boredom are sticking around for a long time, it’s a sign that it might be helpful to explore these feelings more deeply and find ways to work through them.

Remember, it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling, and it’s important to be gentle with yourself. Take things one day at a time, and if you need support, don’t hesitate to reach out.

Take care of yourself, and I hope you start feeling a little lighter soon.

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Hey @4ever. This post resonated with me and reminded me of interactions with my own family, and I think it’s very brave of you to take the step of seeking advice. I might not be able to offer professional help, but here are some things that work for me that you could try, if you like:

  1. Focus on the people that protect your positive feelings rather than those who trigger you. I think it’s important to have other networks that offer social support (if you don’t feel safe opening up to family) and also bring you joy, such as close friendships or colleagues.
  2. Continue exploring new hobbies and trying new things. When I was in a slump and my old hobbies didn’t interest me anymore, I tried things out of my comfort zone that I otherwise wouldn’t have tried. When I felt frustrated over one new skill/hobby, I realised that I no longer felt bored and actually wanted to spend time to get better. Never try, never know.
  3. Note down your feelings. If you prefer to not rant/share with others, write/type the situation and emotions down, or even voice record if typing feels like a chore. Speaking into a phone is better than holding it in.
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Hi @4ever :wave:t2:! I can see that you’re going through a lot, emotionally. I understand it can be annoying and frustrating to cry without any reason or perhaps we are just not aware of it. Additionally, it gets worse after interacting with your mum. These emotions are occasionally triggered by seemingly insignificant interactions when we’re feeling emotionally vulnerable. However, what you’re experiencing is valid and you are not the only one who experiences this :heart_hands:!

Next, feeling bored and uninterested isn’t uncommon either. Previously when I’ve had my break, I would also feel bored and unproductive. However, what I did was to find something that sparked me and also went to look for jobs :smile:. My advice is to try out different stuff and see what suits you best!

Remember, there is no normal or normal :wink:. We are all built differently :slightly_smiling_face:. Anytime you need to talk to someone, feel free to drop them here !! :ear:t2: