Interning at a hospital, i am constantly anxious that i am going to make a mistake. Last week, I made a mistake, I felt immense anxiety and sadness, I was going down a shame spiral. Today, to avoid making mistakes, I asked my coworkers through text many questions. And it seems like she got irritated as she said “you should already know this” I just feel so defeated and sad. Hoping for this intern to end asap. I don’t want to face my coworkers tomorrow, feeling like its better if I just MC. I dont know how to feel okay and im overwhelmed.
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Hi @user1552
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you are experiencing anxiety and fear of making mistakes, shame and self-doubt after making a mistake and fear of judgment from coworkers. May I share with you that I think its fully valid and understandable that you feel overwhelm and want to avoid facing coworkers.
Take a deep breath
Remember:
- Mistakes are inevitable, especially in learning environments.
- You’re interning to learn and grow.
- Coworkers’ reactions don’t define your worth.
Self-compassion
- Acknowledge your emotions.
- Treat yourself with kindness.
- Focus on what you can control.
- Remember the areas you are doing well in.
Strategies
- Reflect on the mistake: Identify what went wrong and how to improve. Write down the steps you need to follow and take time to internalise them.
- Open communication: Discuss concerns with coworkers, including the one who seemed irritated.
- Seek guidance: Ask your supervisor or mentor for support.
- Develop a growth mindset: View challenges as opportunities for growth.
Reframe negative thoughts
- “I made a mistake, but I can learn from it.”
- “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough.”
- “I’m not defined by one mistake or interaction.”
Tomorrow’s plan
- Take a few deep breaths before facing coworkers.
- Focus on your tasks and responsibilities.
- Practice self-care: Take breaks, stay hydrated.
Please know that you are not alone. Many interns face similar struggles. In fact anyone who starts a new role experiences a learning curve. Practise being fully present, focused and write down the steps to take if it helps. Rehearse the steps to take in different situations. You can overcome this, just keep going. 
You can do this!
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It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time with your internship @user1552 , and it’s understandable to feel anxious and overwhelmed. Making mistakes can be really hard, especially when you’re trying your best. It seems like you’re feeling a lot of pressure. Has this affected your daily life outside of work?
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Yup, Ive felt like ive revert back to when my anxiety was worse. My self confidence is low and ive noticed myself unable to be happy at work and at home. I’ve spent nights constantly thinking and shaming myself for my mistakes. I’m constantly doubting myself and being scared to ask for help.
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If I feel the need to tie my self worth to how others view me what should I do?
It sounds like you’re carrying a heavy burden, and it’s understandable to feel overwhelmed with everything you’re going through. When you think about your current situation, are there any some small steps you feel you could take to start rebuilding your confidence and sense of peace? I’ve never worked in a hospital before but I can imagine how meaningful it could be when your patients feel better.
Hi @user1552
Thank you again for reaching out. It’s very normal to link self-worth to others’ opinions. However it can lead to:
- Emotional instability
- People-pleasing
- Difficulty setting boundaries
- Low self-esteem
To Break the cycle
- Self-reflection: Identify why you seek validation from others.
- Recognize external validation’s limitations: Others’ opinions change.
- Focus on internal validation: Develop self-awareness, self-acceptance.
- Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness, understanding.
Strategies
- Mindfulness: Observe thoughts, emotions without judgment.
- Journaling: Record self-thoughts, identify patterns.
- Surround yourself with positivity: Supportive people, inspiring content.
- Set boundaries: Prioritize own needs, desires.
- Develop self-awareness: Identify values, strengths.
Reframe negative thoughts
- “My worth isn’t defined by others’ opinions.”
- “I am more than others’ perceptions.”
- “My value comes from within.”
Seek support
- Therapist or Counsellor
- Trusted friends, family
Remember, self-worth journey takes time, patience. Daily reminders and affirmations will help. Keep going and you will see the benefits to your self confidence and self worth.
@user1552 It sounds like you’re going through a lot, and it’s understandable to feel defeated after such a response.
Remember, it’s possible your co-worker was having a tough day themselves (hospital setting can be hectic and tensions do happen), and their comment may not reflect how they see your efforts. Mistakes are part of the learning process, and you’re showing great commitment by asking questions to avoid them. Try not to take it too personally – you’re doing your best, and that’s what counts.
Tomorrow’s a new day; go easy on yourself, and remember you’re here to grow! Jiayou! 
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Hi @user1552,
It’s understandable and valid to feel anxious and overwhelmed during your internship, especially after making a mistake. It’s a common experience for interns to feel this way.
It may be helpful to know that everyone makes mistakes, and it’s a valuable learning opportunity. Instead of dwelling on the past, you may find it beneficial to think about how you can learn from the experience and avoid similar mistakes in the future.
Regarding your coworker’s response, it’s important to remember that everyone has different communication styles. Perhaps they were having a difficult day or were simply trying to be concise. Try not to take it personally, and instead, focus on finding a way to communicate your questions effectively.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, consider talking to your supervisor or another trusted colleague. They can offer guidance and support. Additionally, taking breaks, practicing mindfulness techniques, or engaging in activities you enjoy can help you manage stress and anxiety.
Remember, you’re not alone in this. Many interns go through similar experiences. Focus on your strengths, learn from your mistakes, and approach each day with a positive mindset.
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Its ok to make mistakes. I can relate… For every first time i did a new job i was screwing up. Some ppl are too impatient to show the ropes. Have u tried finding a mentor?
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