Hi guys, need some opinions and advice. I have been in a long distance relationship with my bf for 3 years now. He is indonesian (23yo), im singaporean (21yo). Honestly we started off for fun, didn’t really think about how far we would come. Just being young teenagers in love. Until it got serious as we are merely entering adulthood and met each other’s parents. Yes, we have talked about future plans. But the only concerning part is getting a JOB!
My bf has been stressing over how to get a job in Singapore and how to save up for a wedding/house etc etc. Currently he is working at a corporate company as a graphic designer/digital marketer. He doesn’t have a degree as he had to drop out due to personal issues back then. For me, i’m waiting for my university applications to come. The only options is to find a job in sg or we break up bc he doesn’t want me to live in indo 
We have done some researching but it gets kinda confusing. I need some answers from people with personal experiences if possible. Please don’t judge, just trying to survive in this world 
Dear @gaarawr,
From what you’ve shared, it sounds like you and your boyfriend have built something really meaningful together, even though your relationship started out lighthearted and spontaneous. The transition from being young teenagers in love to thinking seriously about your future, meeting each other’s families, and discussing plans together must feel both exciting and overwhelming.
I can hear how much you care about each other and how you’re both doing your best to navigate the complexities of a long-distance relationship, especially as you enter adulthood and face important life decisions, like your career paths and where to live. The uncertainty about finding a job (in today’s fractured employment landscape and economic uncertainty) and the pressure to make practical plans for your future together seem to be weighing heavily on both of you.
Although I don’t necessarily have personal experiences with LDR, I want to acknowledge how tough it must be to balance your dreams for the future with the realities of work, finances, and immigration challenges. It’s understandable to feel confused and anxious when researching options, especially when so much rides on these decisions. The fear of potentially having to break up simply because of logistical barriers, not because of a lack of love, is heartbreaking.
Wanting support and understanding, without judgment, as you try to figure things out is completely reasonable, and I’m here to listen and empathise with everything you’re feeling and going through right now.