I learn the piano, I’ve been learning since I was in kindergarten and I’m not proud of it because I believe that I’m still not good at it. At the start, it needed low commitment, but as it gradually became harder, I could no longer sustain practising just once a week, so around grade 4 of piano, I wanted to quit. My grandma refused to let me quit, saying it was useful as if I couldn’t find a job, I could become a piano teacher and that I’ve already made it halfway. Grade 4 was the last time I took a piano exam, after that I just continued learning without taking exams, apparently to skip grades while saving money from not paying for exams. Now I’m at grade 8, the last grade(there’s more stuff but this is the last grade), well more like just learning grade 8 exam pieces and scales and nothing else. My piano teacher convinced me to take the ABRSM Performance exam instead of the practical ones I used to take that tested all the skills, while the performance one required me to record 4 exam pieces consecutively only. This made me feel incompetent because even if I did pass this exam, it doesn’t show that I have good piano skills, it just showed that I practiced those pieces a lot. Additionally, if I didn’t practise those pieces after the exam, I would also forget how to play them..
Anyway, I’ve been learning the pieces for almost 2 years and now I’ve been trying to practise recording for the past 4 months. There hasn’t been much progress because firstly, one of my songs is still not fast enough for the exam, and secondly my environment is not really suited for recording. The issue with the first reason is that I’ve been on a six month break from school, where I worked part time for 3 months, went overseas for 2 weeks and am about to start school, but the song is still not fast enough.. I think I probably wasn’t practising enough, but I don’t really have motivation to practise, which is what has been happening for the past 5 years.. the issue with the second reason is that my piano is in the living room so: 1. My neighbour’s noise(opening the door) can be heard thru the door 2. The vehicles on the road can be noisy 3. My neighbour upstairs sometimes make noise 4. My family makes noise(eg sneeze) 5. Construction noise from downstairs
All these have been making me frustrated everytime I try to record, it’s either I get distracted by the noise and make a mistake or the noise is so loud I think that I can’t use the recording, and it doesn’t help that I’m a bit of a perfectionist.. I feel like a hypocrite, not even practising often enough but still want my playing to sound perfect.. There will be measures to help, like we’ve ordered sound absorbing curtains, but I don’t think it will help much, and the piano can’t go through the doorway to the bedrooms.
My piano teacher has been pressuring me more lately, because I haven’t been sending her my recordings that I was supposed to practice, she told me that since I couldn’t record during the day, I could 1. Record late at night 2. Record early in the morning 3. Book a studio to record(multiple times because I won’t be able to get it in a few trys, so it’s going to cost a lot) I don’t like any of the options but it feels like I don’t have much of a choice.
I’ve told my family about it, but I don’t think they took it seriously even though I brought it up a few times. They still make noise even though I’ve told them repeatedly that I’m recording everytime I play the piano. I’ve ranted to my friends and they told me that now is the time to “buck up” and work harder.
Today, I thought about it, why am I working towards something that I don’t even want, that I might not even use? My last certification is grade 4, so my family does want me to do the exam. Sometimes I feel ungrateful, I have the resources to learn how to play piano, but I don’t work hard and it’s not like I dislike playing the piano entirely, I do enjoy learning songs from youtube, but the amount of hard work needed to learn properly exceeds the amount I’m willing to give, and I’ve only been hanging on all this while. I’ve thot of giving up and not taking the exam or lessons anymore, but I don’t know how to tell anyone.. I’m not even sure if it is what I want, if anyone have similar experiences please share some advice😭 I’ve been so stressed I’ve cried a few times over it but still don’t know what to do