Hi Therapists out there, I am wondering if there is anyway for a minor to visit a therapist without parental knowledge?
I feel like I am someone that has a lot of emotional turmoil inside and i would like an experts opinions on why i feel this way along with helping me on a journey to how i can improve from all the negative thoughts i have, however, i am still underage, and i would like to do this all without my guardians knowing anything. I want to get help for myself, I think i have the funds to do so, but is there anyway for this to stay as a private situation rather then something i that I have to inform my guardians about, or do I just wait until i turn 18?
Also how do I pick therapists that I feel fits my needs and how do I find them?
Thank you for answering!
Hi @Anonymous410,
First, I want to acknowledge how courageous it is that you’re thinking about your mental health and seeking help. It’s clear that you’re going through a lot emotionally, and I can see how important it is for you to get support in a way that feels private and safe for you.
In Singapore, if you’re under 21, parental consent is generally needed to see a therapist outside of school, but there are still some options. Many schools offer counseling services where you can get support. It might be worth looking into this as a first step. And these counsellors are professionally trained too and they will continue to protect your interests.
I understand your need for privacy, and it’s completely valid to want space to figure things out on your own. Your feelings are important, and you deserve to get the help you need. If you ever feel comfortable enough to have a conversation with your guardians, talking about how important it is for you to get help might open up new possibilities. But that’s something you can decide when and if you feel ready.
When it comes to finding the right therapist, think about what kind of support you need. Do you want someone who understands the specific struggles you’re facing, like managing negative thoughts or emotional stress? Some therapists offer a first consultation where you can see if you feel comfortable with them before making a decision.
Take things one step at a time, and know that you don’t have to navigate this alone. Your desire to get help shows how strong and self-aware you are, and I encourage you to keep looking for ways to take care of yourself.
Hello,
I’m afraid that for most therapy clinics, or for public health, consent with a guardian is required for minors. This is required by law in order to protect the minors.
Since you are a minor, I would assume you are still schooling. In this case, you can try to consult your school counsellor for help. They are professionals who are qualified to help you and will aid you in the processes, if you require further referral to another specialist.
If you are worried about your parents finding about the situation of your emotional turmoil, you can let the counsellor / therapist know. According to the code of ethics, counsellors / therapists are not allowed to reveal any information with regards to what you share with them in sessions. This is to protect the client’s best interests (in this case, you).
However, given that you are a minor, there needs to be some form of accountability from the professional to your parents. Especially in the case of MOE Counsellors whereby they are obligated to serve your parents to a certain degree due to their responsibility as a civil servant.
However, to get past this, the counsellor would likely enquire what details you are willing to share and to what extent, as ultimately they want to maintain your interests all while juggling with the trust of your parents. Rest assured, it is unlikely they would “rat you out” to your parents, but they have to at least let your parents be aware that you are visiting them for counselling.
They would also let your parents know the importance of confidentiality in these situations and how it makes you feel more comfortable.
First, you can try to find your form teacher or a teacher that you are most comfortable with and let you know the situation and needs so they can refer you to the appropriate professionals to help you. All the best!