recently I got rejected from a talent show audition and that broke me
tomorrow is a half day with the talent show but I don’t want to go to school tomorrow because just going to school tomorrow reminds me of the pain of being rejected.
this isn’t the first time I felt such rejection on that particular day, which is august 8.
Last year when I was sec 3, I got rejected from being part of my school’s national day parade because no one took me into consideration. they chose all the other sec 4s in my uniformed group cca but not me. Still I came that day last year and just tahan it.
But this year is different because I think enough is enough. I dont want to face the similar pain and rejection on this exact date again. As much as I know going to school every school day is important I wish to just not go but at this point I don’t know what to do.
I think you should still go. You can’t keep avoiding this particular day and I think the more you avoid it, the stronger the negative association for this day. But if you do go, maybe you’ll get the opportunity to create some positive memories and hopefully it won’t be a day that you negatively associate with in future.
For me personally, I think it’s better to go to school still if attendance is a must. Not going to school is avoiding the problem, and it will only disadvantage you when similar problems like this happen in the future.
It’s important to acknowledge and feel that uncomfortable pain in your heart. That’s your body and mind giving you signals. You are uncomfortable and in pain because you care so much about this talent show. Of course you’re in pain. It’s normal and it’s part of being human.
But just because one door closes, it does not mean another won’t open. Yes, it’s cliche, but it really is like that. There are other opportunities to take on, and there are other memories to make that does not involve the talent show. Finding little things that makes you happy can really help when in face of a bad day or week.
I hope you give yourself some grace and be kinder to yourself, OP
Hello @undying_sun I completely understand why tomorrow feels so difficult for you, especially given how much pain August 8 has brought in the past. It’s really brave of you to share how you’re feeling, and it shows how much you care about yourself. I want to encourage you to try going to school tomorrow because I believe in your strength and the possibility that this day doesn’t have to carry the same weight it has before.
Going to school might feel hard at first, but it could also be a way for you to take back some control over a day that has been painful. Every time you face something difficult, you give yourself a chance to heal a little more. You don’t have to do it alone. Maybe you can find a friend or a trusted teacher to lean on if things get tough. If you start feeling overwhelmed, it’s completely okay to take a moment for yourself or reach out for support.
Showing up for yourself on a day like tomorrow is an act of courage and self-respect. You are not just facing rejection. You are showing that you are bigger than it and stronger than the pain. I truly believe that going to school tomorrow could be a step toward healing and proving to yourself how resilient you really are.
Thank you for writing in to share about what has been happening in school. Your feelings of sadness and hurt about being rejected for the audition this year and for the NDP the year before are fully valid. Your honesty conveys a lot of emotions and I feel your hurt.
I have myself experienced rejection and I attest that it hurts deeply to deal with it, especially when a lot of effort has been invested in the journey towards what we wanted. I agree that we cannot help but feel low when we think about what could have been. Do be kind to yourself and remind yourself what happened was not your fault and you did your best. Rest your mind and body and re-centre first so that the thoughts do not overwhelm.
Slowly, may I encourage you to journal what could be the benefits and downsides of each choice:
Choice 1 is going to school
For example, some Benefits could be:
It will be a short day, with no lessons and a chance to build new pleasant memories with friends celebrating SG60 together.
Some examples of Downsides could be :
It will be the talent show and a reminder of rejection.
There is a possibility of feeling discomfort.
Choice 2 which is not going to school
Some examples of Benefits could be :
By not going, you can rest at home and recharge and not have to experience the talent show.
Some examples of Downsides could be:
It may reinforce avoidance of discomfort, which may not be helpful for you in the long run.
You may miss out on SG60 celebrations. If you are graduating from Sec 4 this will be your last celebration in a secondary school.
What I have shared above are just examples so do write your own list of benefits and downsides of both choices.
It is certainly not an easy decision but I am confident you will make the most suitable one for yourself, @undying_sun.
Hey, thanks for being so open about how you’re feeling. It’s totally valid that this day feels extra heavy for you, especially with what happened last year too. It makes complete sense that you don’t want to relive that kind of pain again — it’s not just about the event, it’s about everything it brings up emotionally.
Honestly, whether you choose to go or not, I think what matters most is being kind to yourself. If going feels like too much and you need a break, that’s okay. If a part of you feels like showing up might help you reclaim the day in some small way, that’s okay too.
