working as an intern for almost a year now, I have been extremely under stresses. I do not know when my boss would flip and have been working shift hours to accommodate his special needs. grape vines grow round the office as he would insult me with his tasteless sexual jokes. I can’t even enjoy my own me-time during lunch hour as he micro-manages me. the worst was even after working hours he keeps harassing me. everything has to be within his purview. he would ask another colleague to follow me to the toilet and ensure that I do not stay too long in the cubicle. during lunch time, he would walk to the pantry to check if I was eating my chinese food - chicken rice. I have sent my resignation finally as the last straw; he threw a bag of fries at me and was verbally abusive. im currently seeing a therapist and going through counselling as this incident has left me emotionally scarred. its like what have I done wrong to deserve this when I was just doing my own job.
(sorry disclaimer note: I am sharing the same account with friends who suffer similar forms of mental distress) we sometimes wonder why do such people exist. they relish in drama and are so devoid of attention. but the suffering is finally over as we leave these toxic people who are emotionally draining. cheers to starting afresh in new environments with new people.
Hey @Windon567. Thanks for trusting this space and sharing what you’ve been going through. As I read your story, I can really feel how exhausting, invasive, and deeply hurtful those experiences must have been for you. It’s completely understandable that you feel emotionally scarred after everything your boss put you through. Being constantly controlled, insulted, and monitored can affect anyone’s sense of safety and self-worth. I’m really glad you trusted yourself enough to step away. You absolutely did the right thing in protecting your well-being!
Sometimes when we’re treated badly for too long, our mind tries to make sense of it by turning inward, and that’s often when the question “What did I do wrong?” starts creeping in. But the truth is, you didn’t do anything wrong. The way he treated you reflects his issues, not your worth. And honestly, I’ve had those thoughts too like why do people like that even exist? Like it doesn’t make sense. But going too deep into that question can leave us more drained. Instead, what we can do is acknowledge that these people are out there, and focus on protecting our own peace and choosing environments that honour our well-being.
I hope this fresh start becomes a place where you can rediscover your confidence and rebuild your sense of safety. You’ve shown so much resilience already. Keep leaning into that strength, one step at a time 
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thank you @ScribblingSunflower . while I do acknowledge that there are people out there who are unable to regulate their emotions, I hope that there is also heightened measures to prevent such cases from happening again. when I leave the company, there would be another intern and he might be the next victim. the management is protecting him because of his seniority and long tenure with the company. they are not seeing that this is going to continue unless they fire him or warn other employers about hiring him. we hope that justice will prevail ultimately. 
Hello, thank you for sharing. It must be extremely overwhelming to be constantly pressured. Perhaps having some rest breaks after work caan help to release the pressures off work, such as going on walks to recollect your thoughts. For the inappropriate jokes part, it must be difficult to have him cross your boundaries and I will like to commend you to take a step back and care for yourself. 