I feel that everyone just judge me wherever I go and when people just look at me I tend to feel scared and I overthink a lot till I can’t sleep it makes my chest feels uncomfortable I just needed reassurance but people around me has their own personal life and I just don’t want to disturb them I feel like being myself is a bad thing to people as people see me being weird and everything but I just want to be myself. I’m just scared that people might talk ■■■■ behind my back and then just leave me and I always predict the things that has not happened yet in my brain so my brain keeps running till I forget the time and things that I’m supposed to do. what should I do to stop this from happening is stressing me a lot as I tend to see their bad side only but I also want to see their good side. I can’t sleep and I always say sorry when I do nothing wrong but I’m just scared that they take it too seriously. I donno what to do cause people around me just tells me to ignore but is very hard to just ignore them
Dear @userr1511
From your sharing, I can sense you’re really struggling with a lot of anxiety and self-doubt, and it is affecting you physically, showing up as chest pains. I agree how tough it feels when it feels like the weight of other people’s judgment is constant and overwhelming, and it’s understandable that your mind keeps racing when you’re feeling scared or unsure.
I want to acknowledge how you are feeling and share with you that your feelings are fully valid. It is okay to be yourself—there’s nothing wrong with that. People may not always understand you, but that doesn’t mean you have to change who you are to fit in. In fact, you deserve to be loved and accepted just as you are.
It can also help to give yourself some space to breathe. When your mind starts running, it can be hard to turn it off, but maybe grounding techniques or focusing on the present moment can ease some of that pressure. I do hope you try them. Trying to remind yourself that not everything you predict in your mind will happen can take some of the weight off.
As for feeling like you might disturb others, remember that it’s okay to reach out for support. You don’t have to carry everything on your own. If you feel like someone in your life could listen, even just for a little while, it might help ease some of the burden. And as hard as it is to ignore others, focusing on your own peace and well-being might help shift your energy back to what feels right for you, rather than worrying about their opinions.
Lastly, please be kind to yourself. You’re doing your best, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time. You don’t have to have all the answers right now. Be gentle with yourself, and take things at your own pace.
I hear that you’re hoping to receive some assurances, and I wanna genuinely tell you that you are not a bad thing to people around you, that you have value and worth as a person. I’m saying this to you human to human
Some of what you’re experiencing might be a bit more complex and would probably benefit from finding a professional to explore with and identify ways to overcome. Aside from that, maybe what I can add here would be to ask you: if you were to put a pause to considering external factors or perspectives (what others may think) and to focus on your sole perspective, what are some qualities you enjoy about yourself?
Could be big things, but also could be as small as “I love to eat spicy food” hehe (cos thats me, I enjoy spicy food and I love that abt myself haha) I sometimes to hold these small thoughts close to myself when times are feeling extra hard on certain days.