I recently made a mid-career switch from an internal strategy role into a high pressure client-facing industry. I am only a month in but I already dread going to work every day. I feel like I am not a good fit for the job, and the work does not interest me as much as I thought it would. I don’t have any friends or allies at work, as people tend to only socialise with people they already know/have worked with.
However, the environment is generally functional, there is a proper onboarding process and my bosses have been somewhat understanding with me when it comes to learning new things. Deep down I want to leave because I feel miserable and alone daily, but I feel bad for doing this - my team is still understaffed and my bosses were willing to wait for 4 months for me to start work due to my previous job.
How should I cope with this? I appreciate if others can share their similar experiences too
are you in consulting? sounds like that high-pressure client-facing industry that you described. I think there are a few factors to consider
whether you can find a good job after this
whether leaving this job will damage your reputation
whether your current job situation will improve after a while
I find that many client-facing industries are very practical. There’s only 1 goal - more profit/revenue. If you decide to stay, maybe you’ll need to find your inner joy somewhere else. See if there are any interest groups that you can join where people are more willing to make friends.
I recently started a new role too, a few months in!! I really feel for what you’ve shared ><
I also had a hard time adjusting, a lot of self doubts, feeling insecure, feeling doubtful, thinking I’m not in my element, feeling like things aren’t going how i expected and that im underperforming many a times…
Im still learning to get a stronger grip on things going on in my new company, to get to the comfortable stage… what I came to think is that I guess it just takes time yknow. I recall how I felt back at my first job for the first year, I don’t rmb how it felt exactly anymore but I recall episodes of struggles and difficulties then too. So I realise maybe that is the process of growing and learning, that it is just gonna be uncomfortable feeling…
I love how you alr are aware that objectively there are good qualities in your workplace currently and it sounds like these are green flags for a company!!
Can you think of anyone kind in your current team who you can have a small chat with? Doesn’t have to be a proper chat or to share your personal struggles, just to build some small relationships. Find the next manageable step towards accepting and embracing your new environment, and make small wins!!!
Abt whether you’re a good fit, since it’s a new role, keep a light heart okie, give yourself the space and try and fail and learn and mess up and try again!! We’re all learning anyways heh when it gets to a point you know it’s not right for you, youll sense it in your gut!!
Supporting ya, you’re not alone in feeling this way in a new work environment all the best
Thank you for the reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to make a career switch so well done on taking up the challenge.
I am sad to hear that you feel alone in this new role. Please do not be disheartened. People usually take time to warm up to new-joiners. Do your work well, and ask for help where needed. Be open to learn. Attend group meetings, discussions and company events to meet other staff. Slowly, friendships may form.
Meanwhile, continue to seek support outside work: Connect with friends, family, or a mentor outside the office for emotional support and new perspectives.
Focus on small wins: Celebrate your daily achievements, no matter how small, to build confidence and momentum.
Explore internal opportunities: If you’re unhappy in your current role, consider discussing internal transfer options with your bosses.
Weigh the pros and cons: Make a list of the advantages and disadvantages of leaving versus staying. This will help you make an informed decision.
Prioritize self-care: Take care of your physical and mental well-being by getting enough sleep, exercise, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.
Remember, it’s okay to acknowledge your feelings and consider what’s best for your career and happiness.
Others who have gone through similar experiences may share:
The importance of giving yourself time to adjust
The value of open communication with supervisors and colleagues
The need for self-care and support outside work
The possibility of exploring internal opportunities or seeking a new role that better aligns with your values, interests and strengths.
The first 100 days are usually the most challenging. Give yourself time to fully assess your suitability and job fit before making any decisions.
all the best 