Unmotivated

Ask a Therapist Is This Normal?
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For a year now, I’ve been facing obstacle over obstacle. Many of my supposed close friends decided to betray me with no intention of resolving the issue with me, I’m unfortunately placed in a class who barely notices me and ignores me when I seek help in assignments, my family has started to show zero support in my mental wellbeing, and I was even let off from my part-time job despite being promised a chance in displaying my skills. I feel so unmotivated to do anything. It’s difficult to get up each day to complete the tasks I have to do, but I’m not used to it. I thought it was merely a simple phase of stress but it’s been prolonging for over a year now. Is this normal? It has never occured to me before. I’m not sure what I shiuld do.

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Dear unmotivated

I’m sad to hear that you’re going through this tough period. It’s completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and unmotivated.

Firstly, please know that it’s not uncommon for people to face a series of challenges in life, and it doesn’t define your worth or potential. It’s important to recognize that these obstacles are not a reflection of your abilities or value as a person.

What you’re experiencing is a cumulative effect of multiple stressors, which can lead to feelings of burnout, anxiety, and depression. I believe it’s not a simple phase of stress; it appears that it is a prolonged period of emotional distress.

Here are some suggestions:

  1. Seek professional help: Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can provide a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss your feelings and develop coping strategies.

  2. Reach out to supportive people: While it’s painful to experience betrayal from friends, try to connect with people who genuinely care about you, even if it’s just one or two individuals.

  3. Join a group who share your hobbies as they can be a support group: Connecting with others who enjoy similar hobbies as you can help you build social connections. For example join a running or brisk walking group. The exercise will benefit your health too.

  4. Practice self-care: Engage in activities that bring you comfort, relaxation, and joy, such as exercise, hobbies, or meditation.

  5. Take breaks and prioritize rest: Allow yourself time to rest and recharge; it’s essential to acknowledge your limits.

  6. Re-evaluate your environment: Consider changing your class or work environment if possible, to surround yourself with more supportive people.

  7. Focus on small wins: Break down tasks into smaller, achievable goals to help build momentum and confidence.

Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. There are resources available to support you. Keep in mind that it’s okay to not be okay, and it’s essential to prioritize your mental wellbeing.

You got this, and remember to be kind to yourself throughout this journey. You are lovable and worthy regardless of what others say or do.:heart:

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