i dont know what to do

I dont know what is going on with me. I have a ton of assignments that I should be working on and completing, but I cannot muster the courage to start on anything at all. Its been weeks of just waking up, feeling so stressed and just lying in bed all day with all the stressful thoughts filling my entire brain but I just cant get myself to start work. I force myself to sit in front of the computer to try and get some work done but I literally cannot focus… my mind is racing everywhere, worried that my boyfriend, my friends, my family are all gonna leave me cos im so absolutely useless that i cant even get anything done. I feel this racing heartbeat that pounds at my chest + stomach so hard that it kinda hurts and ive been feeling so dizzy and lightheaded I just want to collapse but its not like Ive even done anything so why do i even want to collapse… lol i tried going to 2 school counsellors, visited a doctor and a psychiatrist and everyone just told me “actually you can achieve things if you put your heart to it, you’re perfectly fine” but is this really what normal people go through and have i not been putting my heart into it already… but no matter how hard i try to push myself out to start work i just CANT… idk anymore


Hi @heartracing

First of all, thank you for sharing your struggles with us on this platform, it takes so much courage to be authentic about feeling at a loss, and I commend you for that.

I’m truly sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way, and it sounds like you’re going through a very difficult time. I want to assure you that what you’re experiencing is valid, and you’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed. Again, it takes a lot of strength to reach out for support, and I’m here to help you explore these feelings.

Firstly, I want to acknowledge that the difficulties you’re facing are real and completely deserve attention. It’s actually very common for people to feel paralyzed by stress and anxiety, making it difficult to focus on tasks. I’m glad that you’ve sought support from school counselors, a doctor, and a psychiatrist, but I can imagine that it’s disheartening when their responses haven’t fully addressed your struggles.

I’d like to suggest considering a few strategies to cope with the overwhelming feelings you’re experiencing:

1) Break tasks into smaller steps: When you’re facing a large workload, breaking it down into smaller, more manageable tasks can make it less intimidating. Focus on completing one small step at a time, and hopefully this will help you to complete the tasks in a manageable way.

2) Self-compassion: Be kind to yourself. Understanding that your struggles don’t make you useless or a burden. I affirm to you that all of us do face challenges, and it’s totally okay to seek help and take things one step at a time. Remember to have compassion on yourself :slight_smile:

3) Mindfulness and relaxation techniques: Practice techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation to help calm your racing thoughts and reduce the physical symptoms of stress.

4) Consider seeking additional professional help: If the support you’ve received so far hasn’t been sufficient, it might be worthwhile to explore other therapy options. A licensed therapist or counselor could provide more specialized support tailored to your unique situation. For starters, you can try these online options or go to a nearest Family Service Centre to seek support.

Online counselling:
Limitless : Talk To Someone - Limitless
CPH chat : https://www.cphonlinecounselling.sg/hc/en-us
http://ec2.sg : https://fycs.org/ec2-sg

Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and your feelings are valid. Do continue to keep us updated about how you’re coping, we’d love to support you more.

Hear from you soon :slight_smile:

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Is it because the assignments are not interesting enough to you or is it because you’re preoccupied with all the other thoughts?