a levels are coming soon and I’m feeling rlly stressed about it, my parents keep saying that I will fail and will disown me and get me to get a job if I fail , I feel like this has definitely got into me in some way. even now I feel like breaking down and crying every time I attempt to study
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That’s a lot of pressure on you. Sending you some virtual love and kindness.
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your feelings of stress and fear are totally valid, i can tell that youre trying your best for a levels already :”) (a levels was a total NIGHTMARE coming from someone who has been through the whole war yikes). there is still time to improve, whats most important is that we dont give up and put in our best efforts. im rooting for you, do take care and trust yourself, you can do this!
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hi, that sounds so so tough TwT it must feel exhausting to study while carrying all that fear from what your parents said. i just wanna remind you that their words don’t define your worth!!
when it gets too tiring, maybe break it down into tiny steps? like the pomodoro method with 25 mins of study, then a 5min break. sometimes even those small wins can make things feel less bad!! and pls don’t be afraid to reach out to a trusted adult in your life :3
all the best, you’ve got this!
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First off, I want to acknowledge how incredibly tough that must be to deal with. It’s a lot of pressure, not just from the upcoming A-levels, but also from the fear of not meeting your parents’ expectations. The fact that you’re feeling this stressed and on the verge of breaking down every time you study shows how heavy this situation is for you right now.
It’s hard when the people you care about, especially your parents, put that kind of pressure on you. They may not realize how much it’s affecting you, but it’s clear that their words have made a deep impact. It’s one thing to feel the stress of exams, but when that stress is coupled with the fear of being disowned or punished for not succeeding, it can feel completely overwhelming.
But here’s the thing: You are not your grades. I know that sounds easier said than done, especially when it feels like your parents’ approval hinges on those grades, but you are so much more than your academic performance. And honestly, no matter what happens with your exams, it doesn’t define your worth or your future.
I hear you when you say you feel like breaking down, and I just want to say it’s okay to feel that way. It’s okay to have moments where you feel overwhelmed—it’s normal to feel that way when you’re under this kind of pressure. But don’t let that voice telling you that you’ll fail or that you’re not good enough become the only voice you hear. That’s not the truth.
What you can control right now is what you do each day to take care of yourself. Studying can feel like a mountain when you’re feeling so emotionally drained. Maybe instead of trying to push through everything at once, break things into smaller, more manageable pieces. Focus on short study bursts with breaks in between, and give yourself permission to rest and recharge when you need to. Don’t let the fear of failure consume your ability to take care of yourself.
Have you been able to talk to anyone outside your family about how you’re feeling? Sometimes just talking to someone who understands or is outside the situation can help take some of the emotional load off
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indeed thats unreasonable of them. =( unfortunately many asian parents dunno how to phrase their worries, alw sound negative and blunt. Mine too. U just focus on self care, try not to take to heart.
Gd luck
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hello, as a student myself, I understand that it can be really stressful to sit for the national exams, do take care of yourself by resting for a short 5 mins break in between your study sessions. all the best op <3
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Thank you for sharing your feelings.
What you’ve just shared sounds incredibly painful, and I’m really sorry you’re going through this. The pressure from your parents and the fear of failing must feel overwhelming, especially when all you’re trying to do is focus on studying. It’s understandable that you’re feeling so anxious and drained. No one can concentrate well when they’re constantly afraid or criticised.
Please remember that your worth isn’t defined by your grades or what your parents say. You’re doing your best under very difficult circumstances, and that already takes a lot of strength. If things ever start to feel too heavy, try reaching out to a school counsellor or a trusted teacher. They can listen and help you find support. You don’t have to face this alone. It’s okay to take things one small step at a time, and to be gentle with yourself in the process.
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Hi read yr thoughts.
Ask yourself : does it help to cry when your ALevels are approaching.
Dont worry abt the environments. Just have a healthy mind and think only of your exams. They are most important now.
Hope this helps.
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