I’ve always been told that I’m always negative. From my father to my ex best friend to one my classmates. I’m still in school,and I get pressured alot that I got tired of my friendships that I gave up on them just this year. I even developed a habit of combing or plucking my hair since last year 2023. Last year,I used to pluck my hair in the top middle of my scalp that it got a hole,I was able to stopped but instead,I can’t help but to constantly comb pulling my front hair which affects my hair line uneven. Whether im conscious about it or not. I tend to do it when I’m stressed.
People who I know often say I looked depressed or I look unhappy. I’m honestly kind of irritated by them. My father, he said I have signs of depression which I think I don’t because I just feel alright and as you know,most teenagers especially introverts like myself like to stay at home,lazy,like to sleep,like to stay up late or listen to headphones music and lost appetite. I think it is common for teens to be like this but I’m really want to know whether I’m actually depressed and how can I stop comb pulling my hair?
Hi everythingisgloomy
Thank you for coming forward. That is a bold and brave first step to take. From what you have shared, others have shown concern and you are naturally wondering if what they feedback has any element to be concerned about. You acknowledge you are tired out by friends and have chosen to withdraw from them. I also thank you for sharing that you have been pulling hair and want to stop this behaviour. May I share that hair pulling is a habit triggered by many factors and I’m glad you want to address it.
My recommendations are :
1. Consult a school counsellor or therapist to explore feelings.
2. Identify stressors and develop coping strategies.
3. Address hair pulling habit:
- Keep hands busy (fidget toys, drawing).
- Relaxation techniques (deep breathing, meditation).
- Journal emotions.
4. Evaluate depression symptoms with a professional.
5. Self-care:
- Exercise (endorphins boost mood).
- Socialize (small, low-pressure settings).
Please do not be too discouraged. Take small consistent steps to reduce stresses, build friendships and dedicate time daily for self care. Slowly and surely you will see improvements once you start putting in the work. Keep going!