I am known to have a tendency of overthinking. Recently I have made a lot of new online friends that are from different countries. i just feel like some of them aren’t being genuine. And I feel really bad because to the few that are genuine, I unknowingly neglect them. Even with my real life friends, I neglect those that treat me really well and only wanna get close with the ones that isn’t genuine. From time to time, I will try my best to make sure I don’t neglect my good friends but subconsciously I still do it. AND since my online friends are from my Stan account, I started losing interest in what I do because I just feel like the surroundings had became sour. I can’t tell if I am overthinking or am I actually ungrateful.
you seek validation from uninterested parties. happens to all of us. can be shifted to healthier friendships tho
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Hello @user1394 ! Thank you for taking the courage to share how you feel!
These feelings are natural; you are becoming reflective and self-aware, which is a healthy thing. You could feel overwhelmed. You already have a great quality: it sounds like you really love the people in your life. One naturally wonders about the authenticity of people, particularly in online environments where confidence takes time to grow. That humanises you rather than renders you unappreciative. Try to remind yourself that nobody’s energy need exactly matches others. Though it will require work to change your focus, concentrate on those who treat you nicely. Little steps like following up with one friend who has always been there help to create good habits. Regarding feeling as though your surroundings have become sour, this could simply mean you are outgrowing some dynamics or interests and that is also acceptable. Though it involves pausing, allow yourself time to investigate what makes you happy once more. You’re striving to achieve equilibrium and negotiating connections; you’re not unappreciative. In the process, treat yourself kindly.
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Hi @user1394, thank you for reaching out.
It sounds like you’re navigating a challenging and complex social landscape. It’s perfectly okay to have these feelings. Your awareness of your tendency to overthink and your desire to be considerate of your genuine friends show that you care deeply about your relationships.
Online friendships can be particularly tricky, as it’s often harder to gauge someone’s authenticity through a screen. It’s not uncommon to feel uncertain about the intentions of people you’ve only met online. And the dynamics of online communities can sometimes shift in ways that make them feel less enjoyable or supportive.
It’s important to remind yourself that it’s okay to prioritize your well-being. If certain online interactions are causing you distress, it might be worth taking a step back and focusing on the friends who genuinely uplift you, both online and offline.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful. It just means you’re human and trying to find the balance in your relationships. Acknowledging your feelings is a significant first step, and it’s clear that you have a lot of insight and empathy.
What are your thoughts on talking to your genuine friends about how you’re feeling? Sometimes, sharing your concerns can strengthen those bonds and provide you with the support you need.
Looking forward to hearing your opinions on this!
Danial
Befriender, Let’s Talk
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My genuine friends are alright to me but sometimes I feel like my action towards them might unknowingly cause them to distant from me. i always tell myself the real ones understand!