Recently I have been feeling like I really want to avoid everyone whenever I could. There are times where I don’t feel like talking and just keeping quiet when everyone else is talking, I will just be VERY QUIET and use my phone. Sometimes I will start to cry out of a sudden when negative thoughts come. I will start to write my feelings out on my phone and just keep writing it out. When I start to feel like I am going to be depressed or even wanting to cry, I will quickly run away to avoid myself from breaking down. When I want to talk, people will ask me to shut up and keep quiet, even with my family. I will easily get jealous and overwhelmed. So can I ask am I really getting depressed? If so, what should I do so that I won’t hurt anyone else beside me?
I am sorry to hear that you’re going through this. It sounds incredibly tough, and you’re showing a lot of strength by talking about it.
Feeling like you want to avoid everyone, becoming overwhelmed, crying unexpectedly, and and frustration can be signs of depression or another emotional challenge. The fact that you’re aware of these feelings and willing to talk about them is a crucial first step toward understanding and addressing them.
It’s important to acknowledge that your feelings are valid. You deserve to be heard and supported, especially by those close to you. It’s hard when people ask you to stay quiet, but remember, your voice matters and what you’re experiencing is important.
Here are some steps you might consider to help manage these feelings, and ensure that you don’t hurt those around you:
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Seek Professional Help: Reaching out to a therapist or counselor can provide you with the tools and support you need to navigate these emotions. They can help you understand your feelings and develop strategies to cope with them.
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Talk to Someone You Trust: If there’s a friend, family member, or mentor you feel comfortable with, consider sharing what you’re going through. Sometimes, just having someone listen can make a big difference.
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Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that you enjoy and that help you relax. Whether it’s reading, writing, listening to music, or going for a walk, find what helps you feel better.
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Mindfulness and Journaling: Writing out your feelings, as you’ve been doing, can be a powerful way to process emotions. Mindfulness practices like meditation can also help you stay grounded.
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Limit Negative Influences: If certain situations or people consistently make you feel worse, it’s okay to set boundaries to protect your mental health.
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Consider Professional Support for Family Communication: Family dynamics can be challenging, especially when you feel unheard. A family therapist might help facilitate better communication and understanding.
Remember, you don’t have to face this alone. It’s okay to ask for help, and there are people who want to support you. If you ever need to talk or need more resources, I’m here for you. Take care of yourself. 
Danial
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I tried to talk about my emotions out but not really with my family because I know that they will just be like “it is so normal, everyone do get overwhelmed” or “oh, how are you depressed when you look so normal to me” To me, it feels like they are just brushing off what I am experiencing off easily and that they don’t care about how I feel or what makes me to feel this way. The times where I suddenly burst out crying, they don’t even know because they will never understand me so I personally feel that it is just pointless to talk about it, you know
It sounds incredibly frustrating when your family dismisses your emotions. You’re not alone in feeling unheard and misunderstood. Your feelings are valid, even if they don’t always make sense to others.
While it may feel pointless to talk to your family right now, remember that you have other options. Journaling, talking to a trusted friend, or seeking professional help can be incredibly helpful. Engaging in self-care activities can also improve your mood and help you cope with difficult emotions.
Remember, you’re not alone. There are people who care about you and want to support you. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, please reach out to a helpline or mental health professional. You deserve to feel heard and supported.
I’ve listed down some resources that may be helpful for you. Do let me know if you need further clarity on this!
Mental Health Helplines:
SOS 24-hour Hotline: 1-767
Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019
Institute of Mental Health: 6389-2222 (24 hours)
Community Mental Health Resources:
IMH CHAT: https://www.imh.com.sg/CHAT/Get-Help/Pages/default.aspx
Youth Integrated Team: https://supportgowhere.life.gov.sg/services/YIT/youth-integrated-team-yit
Youth Community Outreach Team (CREST-Youth): SupportGoWhere
Hanging out w the wrong crowd? It feels better to hang out w ppl who r similar. I recommend to find answers after u write down ur feelings or else it will end up spiralling. Open to be frens
Hi there, it certainly sounds lonely. There is no one there for you.
I echo @HanSolo2000 in seeking professional help. I find it really useful to just rant to someone without judgement and perhaps hear myself and know myself better.
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