Last Year my Father in law passed away, 2days after he passed on, my brother passed away. Shocked, stress, heart palpitations, shaky hand, chest pain(sharp), easily tired, shortness of breath, lack of sleep All come in one. Every night always scares me, what if I can’t see the next day. What gonna happen to my kids(3 of them). When to clinic and hospitals to check(blood test, ECG , Xray) all is healthy.
Dear @anonymous224,
Thank you for taking the time to courageously share with us some of the challenges you’ve been facing. We value your trust. I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your father-in-law and the unexpected passing of your brother whilst still in the mourning phase. Having to bear the loss of two family members at the same time is incredibly difficult. Given these circumstances, it’s understandable that you’re experiencing a lot of distress and physical symptoms. I’m glad to hear that you sought medical attention and that your tests have shown you’re physically healthy.
Experiencing significant losses in a short period can trigger a range of emotional and physical reactions, such as stress, heart palpitations, shaky hands, chest pain, fatigue, shortness of breath, and difficulty sleeping. These are all normal responses to such challenging circumstances. Anxiety and bodily discomforts are one of the ways our body signals to us that “Hey I’m not feeling okay, I need attention and connection.”
Here are three actionable steps you can consider to help cope with your grief and the challenges you’re facing:
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Seek Professional Support: Consider scheduling regular sessions with a grief counsellor or therapist. They can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings, offer guidance on coping strategies, and help you navigate the grieving process. Don’t hesitate to reach out for professional support—it can make a significant difference in your healing journey.
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Establish a Self-Care Routine: Dedicate time each day to engage in activities that promote relaxation and well-being. This could include mindfulness exercises, gentle physical activity like walking or yoga, journaling your thoughts and feelings, or enjoying hobbies that bring you joy. Taking care of yourself emotionally and physically is crucial during times of grief.
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Connect with Supportive Networks: Lean on your support system of family, friends, or community groups. Sharing your experiences and emotions with trusted individuals can provide comfort and a sense of connection. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or talk about your concerns regarding the future and your children. Building a strong support network can help alleviate feelings of isolation and provide practical assistance when needed.
Regarding your concerns about the future and your children, it’s natural to worry about what lies ahead, especially after experiencing loss. Focusing on the present moment and creating a supportive environment for yourself and your children can be helpful. Engaging in activities together, talking openly about feelings, and seeking support from friends and family can contribute to a sense of stability and security.
Healing takes time, and it’s okay to have ups and downs along the way. Please be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve in your own way and at your own pace.
I hope the above has been helpful and if you’d like more resources or if there is anything else you’d like to share with us, please do. We’re here to listen to you, your feelings are vailed and you matter! 
Kind regards,
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