Somtimes I can be too obsessive to a new person I just met , is like I feel affection and Craving for closeness’s and wanting they to be my friends. Sometimes it can be my teacher , counselor or even a doctor . And feel very upset when they left
@Semimellow Have you always felt this way, or is it something that’s become more noticeable over time? Wanting closeness with someone who makes you feel safe and comfortable is a natural response. We all long for connection, especially with people who make us feel valued and understood, like a bestfriend, teacher or counsellor. It’s understandable that their presence would feel meaningful to you, and it’s equally natural to feel upset when they leave—it shows how much those connections mattered.
Hi @Semimellow,
Thank you for sharing what’s on your mind. It sounds like you’ve been feeling a lot of affection and a strong desire for closeness when you meet someone new, and I can imagine how difficult it must be to feel upset when those connections don’t last the way you hoped. That’s such a tender and vulnerable space to be in, and it’s okay to feel this way.
You’ve shown a lot of self-awareness by recognising these patterns, and that’s such an important step forward. Craving connection and closeness is natural—we all want to feel valued and supported. But when those feelings become overwhelming or when someone leaves, it can feel really painful, like there’s an emptiness that’s hard to fill. Do you recall the last time this happened? How did you try to cope? Have you tried anything different, like getting a hold of their professional contact to keep in touch?
You’ve already shown so much strength by reflecting on these feelings and sharing them here. That kind of openness and willingness to grow is a huge step toward creating healthier and more fulfilling connections. Remember, it’s also okay to remind ourselves that not every connection needs to be lifelong to be meaningful—sometimes even brief relationships can teach us something valuable.
it’s acceptable to approach things incrementally and you’re doing an amazing job by seeking understanding and support. 
I have this sense of attachment when I am with people as well. Someone professional like a therapist or a doctor, is hard to become their friends due to conflict of interest. But other times, if possible we can always drop the person a text or even ask for a meet up. It can be sad that time spent with the person might be over but I am sure the lessons and conversations with them at the moment of time has been valuable.
Yeah, u get that feeling cuz teachers n therapists give validations n it feels nice