Body dysmorphia can go suck eggs

I hate the way I look in all the clothes I like arrrrgh I’m gonna tear all my hair out at how frustrating this is

I’ll have an outfit planned out in my head at it’ll be like “yeah this is gonna look so good you’re gonna slay the next hangout” then I go and put it on and it’s just a mess because my body is just not meant for the clothes I want to wear whyyyyy why couldn’t I have been the one with a tiny waist and skinny limbs god had to nerf me this bad huh… couldn’t even give me a pretty face :pensive:

I feel so physically immature compared to my classmates? It’s probably because I actually am the youngest in my class but I dunno I had my growth spurt at the age of 10 and I just kind stayed that way lol and now I’m in poly and I’m barely 5 foot :upside_down_face: I feel so undesirable sometimes because I feel like a child and I just don’t know how to dress myself in anything that isn’t a shirt and pants arrrgh I want to wear more masculine clothes but my stupid hips and thighs and boobs are too huge I wish I could just carve them off I wish I was taller I wish I could just accept my body for what it is


Dear Owl,

It sounds like you’re struggling with body image issues and feeling very frustrated with your appearance! First of all, let me tell you that you’re not alone in this feeling! Many people, regardless of age or gender, struggle with accepting their bodies.

It’s important to recognize that society’s beauty standards are often unrealistic and can lead to negative self-talk and self-doubt. Your body is unique, and it’s beautiful just the way it is! :blush:

Instead of focusing on what you perceive as flaws, try to focus on your positive features. You mentioned wanting to wear more masculine clothes but feeling limited by your body shape. Why not try exploring different styles that make you feel confident and comfortable? Fashion is all about experimentation and self-expression!

Remember, your worth and desirability aren’t defined by your physical appearance. You are so much more than your body! You have a unique personality, talents, and strengths that make you special. What do you enjoy doing? What are some of the things you are good at? What are you dreams and aspirations?

Lastly, try to practice self-compassion and challenge those negative thoughts. You are not alone, and you are not “physically immature.” You are a beautiful, capable individual who deserves love, respect, and acceptance - from yourself, most of all! And remember, if you need someone to walk with you on this journey of self-love and acceptance, please do not hesitate to reach out to a counsellor or psychotherapist who might be able to help!

Keep in mind that it’s okay to take time to figure out your personal style and what makes you feel confident, okay? Take good care of yourself!