Recently my employer had commented to me that nowadays our millennials and gen z employees are fragile mentally.
Also in our labour crunch jobscape out there he has his woes on employing individual(s) with unreliable job experience and record.
I am not certain like how would we are able to response to them in asound manner without causing conflicts with his dominant old generation comment.
Having small talk with older bosses is touchy plus I myself as an neurodivergent individual is already difficult enough to secure a job out there.
So do hope through this post I could hear how other would reacts to bosses who wanted their younger employees to learn. With more experience and quiet promoting their employees without increasing their pay.
How could I avoid that and convey what my thought are im a decent manner without trifle with his experience and seniority.
Hi @Ouchast_93, thanks for sharing about your struggles.
It can be really challenging to navigate these conversations, especially when there are generational differences and personal factors involved. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and concerns, and it’s commendable that you’re seeking a way to address this in a respectful and constructive manner. Feeling heard and valued in the workplace is crucial for everyone, regardless of their generation or background.
One approach you might consider is framing your response in a way that emphasizes common goals and mutual respect. You could start by acknowledging your boss’s experience and insights, which can help set a positive tone. For example, you might say something like, “I really appreciate your experience and the knowledge you bring to our team. I believe we both want the best for our company and our employees.” This approach shows that you value their perspective and are willing to work together towards a common objective.
Next, you could gently introduce your perspective by highlighting the strengths and contributions of younger employees. Mention how millennials and Gen Z bring fresh ideas, adaptability, and technological skills to the table, which are valuable assets in today’s fast-paced and evolving work environment. You might say, “I’ve noticed that our younger team members are really skilled at adapting to new technologies and bringing innovative ideas to the table. I think these qualities can be leveraged to help our company stay competitive and grow.”
Lastly, it’s important to address the issue of pay and promotions. You could express your understanding of the company’s financial constraints while also advocating for fair recognition and compensation. You might suggest alternative ways to motivate and support employees, such as offering professional development opportunities or flexible work arrangements. For example, you could say, “I understand that budget constraints are a concern, but I believe we can find other ways to support and motivate our team, such as offering skill-building workshops or more flexible work options.” This approach shows that you’re willing to find solutions that benefit both the company and its employees.
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neurodivergent individual is already difficult enough to secure a job out there.
[/quote] Im not clear what this means, could u define it? Did u disclose your condition during interview? I know some ppl who chose not to disclose so that their applic won’t be turned down.
Hmm i had worked in couple of traditional Smes before, got these sort of old fashioned thinking. their mindset is alr fixed, most likely won’t be able to change them. maybe possible not to respond to this small talk? could just show u actively listen to the points without needing to engage. Most old timers alw have the pattern- dun like young to disagree. I know coz i’ve had the misfortune of knowing stingy ex employers Boomers, they fired me but dw to compensate. Claimed to be not gaining profits.
I understand that some of us had challenging experiences with certain older employers, but it’s important to remember that not everyone from that generation thinks or acts the same way. We might be surprised by how open-minded and supportive some of them can be.
I don’t think I need their validation as long as I could be an aid for them…
I think that sometimes if I over work myself. I ended up putting myself of being manipulated by them.
Including those who had being in the orgainsation for more than 4years persay.
Being diagnosed with the traits since 2022 had put at a disadvantage I guess. I rather not to open the cans of worms only when they are open minded to listen.
But with the good traits of being a problem solver. I could actually just solve or help whatever I could and just do the minimal and keep low.
Hey @Ouchast_93 , I get where you’re coming from—dealing with comments like that, especially when you’re already navigating your own challenges, can feel so tricky. I’ve been in similar situations before, and I’ve found that timing is everything.
Personally, I try to bring these conversations up when the vibe is more relaxed, like during a casual lunch break or when your boss seems in a better mood. People tend to be more open and curious in those settings, so it feels less like a debate and more like a discussion.
Instead of directly challenging their views (because, let’s face it, old habits die hard), I try to gently shift the perspective. For example, I might say something like, “I get where you’re coming from, but I think it’s more about personality and experience rather than just generational trends. Every person’s situation is different.” It’s a subtle way to remind them that not everyone fits neatly into a stereotype.
It’s not easy, especially when you’re trying to tread carefully, but just remember your voice matters too. You’re advocating not just for yourself but for creating a better work environment for everyone. Take it one step at a time—you’re doing great.
maybe possible not to respond to this small talk? could just show u actively listen to the points without needing to engage. Most old timers alw have the pattern- dun like young to disagree. I know coz i’ve had the misfortune of knowing stingy ex employers Boomers, they fired me but dw to compensate. Claimed to be not gaining profits.