I always wondered do we always need to draft a essay of reasons to give someone a gift?
As recently i decided to make and give every staff in the DAC i volunteered in a gift. And when i send the picture of the thing i made to my leader via whatapp to ask for opinion if the staffs will like it. The very first question i get from her is why you want to do this? And i start to crack my head hard for like 5 mins to think why, but in return i just reply, because i wanted to. So, i end up giving each staff a gift during the session and everyone was happy.
And feeling the happiness vibe in them i decide to go bigger, and told my leader that i wanted to make something for all the staffs in the disabled home even i dont volunteer there but my leady does, And the next think she msg me back is why? So…again i spend a while thinking of a reason and excuse for it. So, i text her back telling her, because those staff are lowly paid, and no one sees their hard work unlike staffs in the big hospitals where their pay is higher, and people always give them stuffs. So, they deserve a reward too. The next thing she reply me was the home has over hundreds of staffs, and my jaw dropped for a min, and i reply her back, who cares is not like hospital with thousands of staff.
And have to think back in the past i always been ask why? When i wanted to give someone something. And in the past, many of the social workers and counsellers i see seems to ended being a victim of my gifting habits. And they always like why? But i was like, na…take. And one fine day one of them told me they cannot accept gifts. any gifts they need to declare and write a report. So…than on whenever i give i social worker or a conseller a gift, i will just tell them, give you, make sure you declare hor.
And yet…they also end up giving me gifts in return and most of the time its over $20 kind of gifts, while what i give them is like $5?
So far, i have also give things i made to my coursemates at the end of the course, which many where surprised. And it does puzzled me.
But from what i know gifting is a pretty common habit of person with mental health issues. Since we are just happy to see people happy. I so remember when i was volunteering in IMH for their arts and crafts activity some of the patients tend to like to shove their drawings at the volunteers and ask them to take. If you ask them why they will start to get a bit agitated.
So yeah…i wonder why we always need to explain why when we wanted to give someone something?