Im so tired tired tired. I don’t even know what to do anymore. Growing up my siblings and I have been so bad at studies, and coping with life . We are so lazy! In everything we do. Im a overthinker i overthink for myself and i overthink for others and it’s so toxic. It stresses my brain out i feel like my life is so pointless it’s directionless. I will procastinate and back to square one same thing happens with my siblings we all love learning the hard way and its angry. Idk what to do anymore im losing hope
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Hi @User1335,
It sounds like you’ve been carrying a lot on your mind and in your heart for a long time. First, I want to acknowledge how difficult it can be to feel like you’re stuck in a loop, where procrastination, overthinking, and a lack of direction keep pulling you back into the same place. You’re clearly feeling exhausted from it all, and that’s completely understandable.
Given what you’ve shared, it’s important to take a step back and recognize the impact this overthinking and frustration is having on you. When your brain is constantly running through scenarios, it drains your mental energy, and that’s why you might feel so tired all the time. The exhaustion isn’t just physical—it’s mental and emotional.
Let’s focus on breaking this cycle in a way that feels manageable for you, starting with small steps. You don’t have to fix everything at once, and it’s okay to take things one day at a time.
1. Acknowledging the Problem:
- Overthinking is like carrying an emotional backpack that gets heavier with every thought. What’s important right now is to lighten the load. One way to do this is by focusing on what’s within your control today—what’s one small thing you can do that will make you feel just a bit more in control? It doesn’t have to be something big, just something to break the pattern of inaction.
2. Small Goals to Regain Control:
- Right now, focusing on big life goals might feel overwhelming, and that’s okay. Instead, think about what you can do in the next hour or two. Maybe that means tackling one small task that you’ve been putting off. When we set achievable goals, even tiny ones, we get a small sense of accomplishment, and that can help shift your mindset.
3. Support System:
- You’ve mentioned your siblings, and it sounds like you’re all feeling similarly stuck. Have you tried talking to them about how you’re feeling? Sometimes just sharing the frustration with people who understand can help ease the weight of it all. If your siblings are going through something similar, it might help to work together to find small ways to motivate each other or hold each other accountable in positive ways.
4. Seeking Outside Help:
- You mentioned that you’re losing hope, and that’s a strong indication that you may need more support than you’re currently getting. Talking to a counselor or therapist can be incredibly helpful when you feel stuck in a loop like this. They can provide you with practical tools to manage overthinking and help you find a way to feel more in control of your life. Seeking help doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re strong enough to ask for what you need to feel better.
5. Cognitive Breaks:
- When your mind is constantly running, it’s important to take mental breaks. Try stepping away from what’s stressing you out, even if just for 10-15 minutes. Go for a walk, listen to music, or do something that allows your brain to reset. This can help calm the overthinking and give you a clearer mind to approach things later.
6. Recognizing Progress:
- It’s easy to get frustrated with yourself, but remember that the fact you’re aware of these patterns is already a big step. You’re recognizing what’s holding you back, and that’s key to moving forward. It’s important to give yourself some credit for that, even if it doesn’t feel like much right now.
It’s okay to not have everything figured out yet, and it’s okay to take small steps. The most important thing is that you don’t give up on yourself. There are ways to break this cycle, and I believe that with the right support and a few changes, you’ll be able to find a way forward.
Take care of yourself, and remember—small steps can lead to big changes over time.
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Hi @user1335,
I agree with you that it can get exhausting stressing due to overthinking things. It’s great that you identify the issues you are facing and seeking help on this forum. I can tell you care about your siblings and wish to change both yours and their lives for the better.
@FuYuan_Affections post is well-written, sharing some excellent advice that can help you organise your thought and tackle this challenge. I would like to offer some encouragement and insights that hopefully it’ll be of help.
I’ve experienced similar struggles, especially when it comes to overcoming procrastination. Starting something can be the hardest part, even if you’ve set goals. It’s easy to say you want to do something, but actually getting started can be tough.
Taking one step at a time is perfectly okay. It’s indeed okay to take things slowly. But remember you must get start - to get things rolling.
The key is to begin - once you do, it’s often easier to keep going. Consider this: you’ve put so much effort into starting, so isn’t it worth it to keep moving forward?
Sure, things may get tough on the way, it’s normal to feel frustrated and disheartened, or you may feel like crying/giving up because although you put in so much effort, progress seems slow. You may start to worry whether you can really do this or not. If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to express your feelings - whether it’s through writing, talking to someone you trust, or sharing here with us.
We are here to listen without an ounce of judgement. If you have any worries or need someone to talk to, just ping us and we can talk here in this safe space, kay?
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heyyy i hear you >< i struggle with procrastination very often too, there are just moments where i do not feel like i can be productive and i just cant do all that is waiting for me to do :///
you mentioned abt your siblings, yall all go through similar situations of overthinking and procrastinating? do yall have an idea what is the underlying factor resulting in these common experiences between you all?
i think we are all results of our environment mixed with our nature of personality and characteristics. when we better understand what are the external influencing factors around us, maybe its easier to then start taking control internally~
sometimes i also hope we all learn to not take it too hard on ourselves and to just give ourselves pats on the back when we do small tasks each day 
just sharing your thoughts here is alr a big move 
youre doing alright!!! most impt of all, plspls give yourself permission to let go of others expectations and just be, these small pockets of breathing space is like giving yourself mental breaks to rest your heart!! <3
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Hi @user1335! Thank you for sharing how you’re feeling. It sounds like you’re going through an incredibly overwhelming time right now. First, I want to acknowledge that you feel exhausted, frustrated, and stuck. That’s a lot to carry; understandably, you’re feeling drained. It’s okay to feel that way, but I want to reassure you that change, though difficult, is possible. You might want to focus on small and achievable steps. Instead of tackling everything at once, pick 1 small thing you can work on such as creating a small daily routine or working on a specific task for 10 minutes or more. These small steps can slowly be turned into big ones but take things slowly 
! Don’t feel like you need to have everything figured out right now. Give yourself permission to take one step at a time. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s okay to take things slow while you figure out what works for you.
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