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I am tired. I feel down everyday. No mood in doing everything. When it’s my off day I refuse to leave the house and prefer to stay in my room or stay in bed I will only go to the washroom or eat my meals if I really need to. My room is in a mess, I want to clean up but i can’t bring myself to start. My sleep schedule is chaotic

When I come back from work I don’t want to do anything and I will either lay on the sofa or bed and use my phone normally I will only drag myself to deal with my personal hygiene after midnight.

I have super low self esteem and 100% introvert. When I look at mirror I feel like I dunno who is that. I am afraid to look at people in their eyes when I go out I have to put headphone listen to music else i will easily loss temper I feel easily irritated easily angry.

At work I’m scared of my superior opinion, they had certain expectstions from me but they said i have not met their expectations and what is wrong with me. I’m afraid to voice out if possible i can go slient the whole day but I’m working as customer service so it’s impacting on my performance always got called by my superior asking why am I not proactive and i dunno how to respond. I thought of quiting my job but I feel my job is the only thing that ground me if i quit i will definitely go into a sprial.

When my colleagues text me on work related I feel irritated but I will reply almost immediately but when my friends or family text me I will not reply at all or only reply few days later. When my friends want to meet up i will normally drag myself go but I will pray it to end soon so I can go home asap or i will go mia on my friends purposely ignore their message or call.

When people tell me about their life story i dunno how to react normally i just listen and nod or laugh it off. I feel detached from life when I’m looking at myself and everything around me from a 3rd party view.

When things get too much or too troublesome I will disconnect myself from everything, I stop answering call or text from friends or family or stop turning up for meet up find reason to reject them or just ignore them.

This has been going on for years on and off. I felt that I need help at some point so I tried to get help by going to polyclinic get referral to a psychiatrist, he asked me to see a therapist after 1 or 2 session I couldn’t connect with them I stop going.

I feel suffocated I think I should seek help but at same time I felt that I am beyond help and it’s also financially taxing so I stop thinking of getting help. I’m just exhausted from everything

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Hi @SLCBY,

I want to thank you for sharing your experience here—it takes courage to open up about what you’re going through, especially when it feels like you’ve been carrying this weight alone for so long.

From what you’ve described, it sounds like you’re dealing with an overwhelming amount of stress and exhaustion, both mentally and physically. The way you’re feeling—detached, unmotivated, irritated, and low on energy—are all common signs of burnout or depression. It’s clear that this has been a long, difficult journey for you, and I can understand why you’d feel exhausted and unsure of where to turn next.

One of the hardest things about what you’re going through is that it often feels like a vicious cycle. The less energy you have, the harder it becomes to take care of yourself, and the more things like work, social interactions, and even basic tasks start to feel impossible. It’s not surprising that this has been going on for years—when depression or burnout takes hold, it can be incredibly difficult to break out of it without the right support.

It sounds like your job, while stressful, is also something that’s keeping you grounded, and that’s important to recognize. However, the strain it’s putting on you, particularly with the expectations and communication issues at work, is clearly taking a toll. The frustration you’re feeling with your colleagues and the avoidance of social interactions might be your mind and body’s way of trying to protect you from further stress, even if it doesn’t always feel like the healthiest response.

You mentioned that you’ve tried seeking help before but found it difficult to connect with the therapist, and I’m really sorry that it wasn’t a better experience for you. Finding the right therapist can sometimes take time, and it’s understandable to feel discouraged when it doesn’t work out right away—especially when it’s financially taxing as well. But I want to encourage you to consider that help is still out there, and you’re not beyond it. It’s not that you’re “beyond help,” but rather that you haven’t found the right kind of support yet.

If financial concerns are making it difficult to seek help, there are free or low-cost options available that might be worth exploring. Here are other community options you can consider:

  1. Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) - 1800-283 7019
  2. IMH CHAT: webCHAT
  3. SOS - 1767
  4. Care Corner Counselling Centre - 1800-353 5800
  5. The Safe Space Foundation (Non-profit): Get pro bono counselling by booking the voucher codes on the Safe Space ISO 27001 platform]

These resources are here to help you, and they can be a lifeline when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

It might also help to start with small, manageable steps—things that don’t feel too overwhelming but can make a difference over time. Whether that’s creating a small daily routine, finding a moment each day to focus on something that brings you even a little bit of comfort, or reaching out to someone who might understand what you’re going through. If the idea of therapy feels too much right now, maybe a support group or even an online community could be a softer way to reconnect with others who might be facing similar struggles.

I also want to emphasize that feeling suffocated and disconnected doesn’t mean you’re beyond repair—it means you’re carrying a lot, and it’s understandable that you’d feel worn down. It’s okay to need help, and it’s okay to take your time in finding it. Even if it feels like it, you’re not alone in this, and there are people who want to see you through it.

If it ever feels too overwhelming, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a crisis line or someone you trust. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to in those moments can make a big difference.

You’ve already taken a big step by sharing here, and that’s something to hold onto. Take care, and remember that it’s okay to ask for help—you deserve support just as much as anyone else.

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I can’t say I know how you’re feeling exactly but it sounds like you’ve been going through a lot. It really means a lot that you have tried getting help and are still finding ways to seek help through this website. I’m not too sure whether this advice will help and it’s okay if it doesn’t but maybe you could try finding a hobby that is more indoors? Since you mentioned that you try to avoid going out, maybe a hobby at home would help. Sometimes life is about finding something we can enjoy, something that encourages and motivates to go on even when life gets tough. Finding that something may take time but it will be worth it :slight_smile:

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Hello @SLCBY! Thank you for sharing how you’re feeling. I can relate to how you’re feeling such as feeling tired (mentally & physically). There are days when I feel like that too and what brings me back together is after I have recharged myself by doing things that I like or having my own time. After a long day of work or school, it’s normal for us to feel tired both physically and mentally as we are out to interact with people the entire day so don’t feel bad about doing nothing :slightly_smiling_face:. Sometimes it is normal for us to feel tired from meeting others as we all need our own time to recharge our social batteries.

If you’re an introvert, I would recommend starting with something or finding a hobby that is indoor or something you can do yourself before stepping out or doing activities with others.

I understand that therapy can be financially taxing but if you would like to talk to someone, we are always here for you to talk to :ok_hand:t2:

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Hey @SLCBY , thanks for opening up. It’s really brave of you to share, especially when things feel this overwhelming. I can tell you’re feeling drained and disconnected, and that must be so tough to deal with.

It sounds like you’ve been going through a rough patch for a while now, and it’s totally understandable that you’re feeling burnt out and unmotivated. The pressure from work, relationships, and how you feel about yourself is definitely making everything feel heavier. Sometimes, pulling back from everything is just your body and mind trying to cope with all the exhaustion.

The stress of trying to meet work expectations, especially in a customer service role, must be huge. It makes sense that you feel stuck—wanting to quit but also needing that stability work gives you.

It’s awesome that you tried to get help before, even though it didn’t go as planned. Finding the right support can take time, and finding the right therapist is super important as feeling comfortable and understood by your counselor can make a big difference in how helpful therapy is. Sometimes it takes trying a few different therapists before you click with one, but when you do, it can really help.

There are affordable options in the community that might make it easier to try again. You can find a suitable service based on your needs using thisService wayfinding.

You’re definitely not beyond help. Even small steps, like cleaning a bit of your space or getting outside for a few minutes, can make a difference. You don’t need to fix everything at once. When you’re ready, reaching out—whether to a therapist, a friend, or a support group—can be your next step. We are here for you, too.

Take care of yourself. :slight_smile:

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Hey @SLCBY thanks for sharing about your thoughts and feelings. That you took the courage to put your story here is amazing already cause it’s a tough one for many, many people.

It’s normal to feel tired and want to zone out, cave in your room and space and not want or need to respond to anyone or anything. At the same time, I think you recognise and know this is also a problem in the sense that you’re not connecting with the outer world and perhaps yourself too - that you’ve numbed yourself from so many things.

But if you don’t mind, give yourself 1 minute to breathe and meditate. Doesn’t have to be thinking of anything, it can just be an empty thought - but just for you to clear your mind. This can be extended to 10 minutes. From there, you can slowly inch your way to give a bit more time for yourself, like 1 full day, to be you - without any shame or guilt.

Sometimes we worry about being judged and seen in a low, negative light. And it makes us wonder, is it even worth doing anything for ourselves? We end up digging deeper into ourselves where it feels safe to not be judged. But I hope that by giving yourself that bit of time carved to meditate, to be you to just take a walk and look at the beautiful sunset and its orange hues cut across the blue sky - it’ll let you feel a lil’ bit more. To feel you can be you, and you don’t need to over-worry what others might think of you and that you can slowly rebuild your own self confidence.

If you ever worry you don’t matter - I hope you can come back and read the thoughtful messages put here for you, or also across this platform and elsewhere. There are people who care for you and I hope you can see that and feel that.

If you ever need anything, I, we are here for you.

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