Family issues

I feel like I’m in a toxic family where the mum talks ■■■■ abt their daughter

Dear @Nurhidayah,

Thank you for sharing how you feel about your family situation. It takes a lot of courage to express these emotions, especially when they involve someone so close to you. Let’s take a moment to acknowledge how difficult this must be for you.

It sounds like you’re feeling deeply hurt by your mother’s actions. When someone we look up to, like a parent, talks negatively about us, it can feel like a betrayal of trust. It’s natural to feel anger, sadness, or confusion in such situations. You are not alone in feeling this way, and your emotions are valid.

Sometimes, when people talk negatively about others, it reflects more about their own struggles than it does about the person they’re speaking about. While it doesn’t make it right, understanding this can help you see that her words don’t define your worth or who you are as a person.

No matter what your family dynamics are, your feelings matter. It’s okay to seek help, whether that’s from a trusted adult, a school counsellor, or a professional. You are not alone in this, and there are people who care about you and want to support you.

You’ve already shown resilience by reaching out and sharing your experience here. That’s a powerful step forward. Let’s keep moving toward a space where you can feel emotionally safe and supported. Take care!