My mum keeps saying am a useless lumb feel really depressed as it is boyfriend doesn’t want to have a family with me my life’s falling apart
Hey OP,
Sorry that you’re feeling that way. Sounds like the people in your life aren’t supportive of your needs. Is it alright if you can share more about what’s going on in your life? 
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. No one should be made to feel useless — you are valuable and important, no matter what anyone says. No one deserves to be called useless, especially by someone who’s supposed to love and support them. That kind of hurtful comment can really stay with you and make you question your worth, and I’m so sorry you’re having to hear that. But please try to remember those words don’t define who you are.
It also sounds like you’re dealing with a lot at once — your mum’s words, your relationship, and just trying to hold yourself together. That’s a lot for anyone. It’s okay to feel upset when things are tough, but please remember your worth doesn’t depend on others. You’re not alone, even if it feels like everything is falling apart right now. You matter, and you deserve care and respect.
If you want to talk more, you can keep sharing here—We’re here to listen! 
Hi @user2393,
It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of pain right now, and I want you to know that your feelings are completely valid. Hearing hurtful words from someone close, like your mum, can be deeply wounding, especially when you’re already feeling vulnerable. The situation with your boyfriend may also be amplifying feelings of loneliness or uncertainty about the future.
You mentioned feeling like your life is “falling apart.” Would you feel comfortable sharing more about what that experience has been like for you? Sometimes naming the emotions or unpacking the weight of these moments can help soften their grip, even a little.
It’s important to remember that your worth is not defined by others’ words or choices. You are not “useless”—you’re someone navigating incredibly difficult emotions, and that takes strength, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.
If it feels possible, could you lean on someone safe—a friend, a support group, or a professional—to talk through these feelings? You don’t have to carry this alone. Depression can cloud our perspective, and having support might help you regain footing.
Lastly, if the heaviness ever feels too overwhelming, please consider reaching out to a crisis line or trusted counselor immediately. You matter, and your pain deserves care. 