Hi. I have a mum who’s cheating on my dad but she doesn’t know that I know and a dad thats angry 24/7. I have nobody I can talk to about this and it pains me every single day. Today is my mother’s birthday. I wanted to get her something but then I found out she was going out to celebrate her birthday with another man. I don’t know how to react or feel. Every time she tries to talk to me I become so rude and it hurts me a lot. I’m not trying to dismiss her actions of cheating but damn I would too if all my husband did was yell and beat my children. All he ever did was provide for us. (Bare minimum) There was no love. Every time during dinner nobody would talk. Nobody was telling one another how their day has been. It was really suffocating having to eat together. It’s funny because I’m a big eater but I rather starve than eat with them as a family. I also have an older brother but he literally doesn’t give two fucks about me to the point I feel like the older sibling. I honestly think my family is never gonna get better and instead is gonna continue crumbling down. Not trying to jinx or anything but I can foresee a divorce. Btw I’ve knew about my mother’s relationship for a couple months already I just didn’t know what to do. I prayed it was all a dream lol. I’m turning 18 this year. What a way to start the year. I have so many things in my head that are bothering me. It’s really hard. I need a job. Also I hate how my parents think I’m stupid asf. Every time I hang out with my friends and go home late they always say I’m influenced by my friends and they’re bad people. Like no I just don’t wanna go home. Especially my mum. She’s so quick to assume that all my friends wanna kill me or something as if she’s literally not hanging out with a man she met ONLINE. ok bye thanks for reading.
Hi @user0943 , happy new year! I can hear that there are so many different things that are bothering you right now, and I can sense just how overwhelmed you are feeling, whether it is the burden of knowing your mother is cheating, the suffocating family situation or your future. It is not easy being in your position, where everything seems against you. I am curious to know if you have anyone in your life, friends, trusted adults etc that you can count on to share some of these emotional burden? I would love to know if you are emotionally supported in real life as well, but of course this forum is a safe space for you to vent, and let some air out. It is not easy, and you have been very brave to handle everything so far.
Could I also ask, of all the things that you have mentioned above, which is the one that you feel is weighing down on you the most? Perhaps we can chat about that first?
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Hi @user0943, that sounds like it must be really overwhelming for you..no child wishes to see their parents’ relationship affected. First off, I am glad that you have turned to this platform to share your struggles. While it may not be the same as speaking to a trusted friend/loved one, remember that there are people here for you! Regarding your family - you should not have to bear the burden of having to withhold this ‘secret’ about your parents 
Moreover, them demeaning you and labelling you as “stupid” must be really hurtful, no parent should treat their child as such. I was wondering, are there other places you can seek refuge in? Perhaps you can talk to a school counsellor? I think that it could be helpful to find a safe space for yourself, even if that is not inside your home. It could be a park, a library or someplace quiet for you to go to when your thoughts get loud.
comments? I will just say: let’s make everyone happy. everyone have their choices in life. yes, emotions do cause stress, and their emotions are sparked by unkind words or action from another. and then this stress goes on to affect other people emotionally. you see how the world recycle? it will never end. this is why Isreali will never have Peace - since 2000 years ago. and till today they are just murdering everyone. Similarly in the past USA have created so many people born handicapped in Vietnam TODAY. my answer is very simple: mixed with a group of people you love, and enjoy your life with them. then avoid making anyone unhappy. hopefully as everyone grow older, the emotional hormones will grow lesser, and everyone will treasure their time available on earth, and make the best use of it while still alive. thank you. remember - when you are young, you have a very quick thinking mind, and a body full of energy. MAKE THE BEST USE OF THAT - excel in music, arts, language, sciences, or something special…nothing that make another people unhappy. i have all along follow this principle in my life, and in just a blink of the eye, i am already 60s already. cannot waste anymore time.