Feeling lost and burnt out

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just need someone to talk to. ive been feeling too overwhelmed lately and i have no idea what’s going on. why is this happening to me? what did i do or didnt do?

im a mediocre student at best, but i always try my best. that’s what i can say. the only thing i wanted for the start of my new term was to do well (and hopefully better) to increase my GPA as my grades have been gradually falling. i thought i had it in for me - but it turned out it didnt when i got put together with another student who is known to be a quiet student who doesnt do well in school. it didnt help to see the work by them that was done the previous time. why do i always get put in the worst groups where i do not know anyone?

at this stage, when school has just started, ive started getting more panic attacks not being able to anticipate what will happen. i didnt know that i would have to do all of this semesters’ projects with my assigned partner only, as our class would normally have different groupings for each module. ive been staying up late and night, trying to do work, not being able to sleep, and waking up feeling burned out and confused the next day. im not great my major which requires a lot of innovation, and i am one of the more socially awkward persons who really isnt able to drive projects. what do i do now? looking at everyone else who works so well with their partners and seem to produce good work, i feel even more confused and at a loss of what to do. i cant take it anymore, the feelings of anxiety eating me alive and i dont have anyone to vent my frustrations to as no one knows how i feel. im pretending to be fine now, but its just eating me alive. i just want all my worries to end with me.

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communicate with ur groupmate? feel free to chat

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its just hard because english isnt her main language and she too softspoken too…im just so worried about competing with other people who have can drive projects really well. i dont trust myself to do that already, and with this groupmate, im even more unsure. i want to do well, yet i cant, and its been so hard fighting all the anxious feelings and panic attacks these days by not being able to anticipate anything. day by day, i see the progress of others and i keep doubting myself. i dont think i can do this any longer anymore and i just dont know what to do at this point.

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reach out to your school counsellor

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Hi luncheon.meat

I’m sad to hear that you’re feeling this way. Thank you for coming forward. I want to let you know that it is fully understandable to feel overwhelmed, especially when you’re facing challenges in school and dealing with anxiety. Let us jointly explore some ways you can cope with these feelings and improve your situation.

I believe it may help to acknowledge how you’re feeling. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, anxious, or frustrated. These emotions are valid and often arise when we face pressure or uncertainty. Recognising that you’re not alone in these feelings can be a comforting first step.

Can you recall triggers or specific aspects of your situation that are causing you anxiety? Is it the group project or the pressure to improve your GPA? Understanding what triggers your feelings could unlock the key to address them.

If possible, I encourage you to consider talking frankly to your instructor about your concerns regarding the group project. They may not be aware of the dynamics in your group and could offer support or alternative solutions. Being honest about your struggles can relieve some of the pressure you’re feeling.

May I suggest you can consider breaking down the project into smaller, manageable tasks. Create a timeline for each part of the project, which can help you feel more in control and less overwhelmed.

Focus on setting achievable goals for yourself rather than aiming for perfection. Celebrate small victories along the way, whether it’s completing a section of the project or simply making it through a tough day.

Take effort to self-care by prioritising sleep which helps in both mental and physical health. Try to establish a bedtime routine that helps you wind down and get adequate rest. Even short naps during the day can help recharge your energy levels.

Incorporate mindfulness practices such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga into your daily routine. These techniques can help reduce anxiety and improve focus.

Consider reaching out to friends, family, or a school counsellor who can provide support. Sometimes just talking about what you’re going through can lighten the emotional load.

It’s okay to ask for help and lean on others during tough times. I can see that you are doing your best, and that’s what is most important. Take things one step at a time, focus on self-care, and reach out for support when needed. You’re not alone in this journey, and brighter days are ahead! Keep going, one small step at a time! :heart:

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Hello,

Seems like you feel overwhelmed from school and have some anxiety over your grades. Perhaps you are fearing that you will do badly despite trying your best? And in an attempt to avoid that, you are putting in more effort but leading to you experiencing a bit of a burn out.

While I am unable to fully relate to what you are feeling right now, but I just want to let you know your feelings are valid. School does seem really daunting and intimidating sometimes huh? It does feel ‘salty’ when you see others have an easier time in school while we are barely scraping by despite trying our best.

I cannot fully provide a solution for you as I do not know the extent of your situation. But perhaps you can try to talk to some of your close friends? And tell them about what you’re facing. Even if they may not know the answer to your problems immediately, it can feel comforting to at least know that you have some one standing by you.

For your assigned partner, perhaps you can also communicate to them what you’re experiencing right now and the difficulties you have with regards to the semester projects. With communication, you both can derive mutual understanding and be able to work more synergistically together, and they would be able to better understand where they can help you in (E.g: perhaps they’re better at researching you at editing) and vice versa.

It would be good to talk to your professors with regards to this situation too. Ultimately, their intentions are for you to make the best of your education career. I’m sure they would try to work out a solution for you with regards to your projects.

Hope things get better for you! All the best

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Hello @luncheon.meat :wave:t2:! Thank you for sharing how you’re feeling. I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through so much or feeling this way.

Firstly, I would like to let you know that you’re not the one experiencing this. Personally, during my first year in school, I also didn’t do well and was worried like you because I am pretty much a perfectionist or I have high expectations of myself. In addition to that, similarly, I had group work too and was paired with someone who didn’t want or care about their work. However, what I’ve learned throughout the months or year would be to manage my time better and have enough sleep or me time. Back then, I was a “workaholic” where I’ll study day and night and stayed in my room all day. However, I realised that it is extremely tiring and grades don’t reflect so I tweaked my routine by allowing myself to nap whenever I’m tired, and giving myself some time to relax these changes in my routine have shown results that make me satisfied.

Some tips or advice I would give you with regards to working with your partner would be to communicate well, plan your schedule (do not rush and do last-minute work), consult your teachers if possible, and ask your other friends if they are willing to help :wink:.

You’re not alone and I can resonate with that :heart_hands:. I know you’re tired but your hard work will pay off and afterward, you’ll be super happy about it :relieved:.

Meanwhile, if you need to pour out your feelings and have nowhere to go to, feel free to approach us here (if you’re comfortable) :slightly_smiling_face: