So earlier last year I lent someone I knew money and it stacked up to 1.6k, towards the end of last year she had returned me about 350$ worth, as for the reason why the debt is so high, I was lending her money to buy food and her transport fees as well as she didn’t had any money for those, I also had lent her more money when her laptop broke and she needed a pc, but we had a breaking out so towards the end of the year we only texted about the money, today when I texted her about the money I haven’t received a reply it’s making me uneasy and I’m feeling so stressed over this as I am about to go for my vacation in a few days time I do not want it to be ruined by this but I also want to settle this debt issue
Hello @user2481 Thank you for sharing this. It sounds incredibly stressful and emotionally draining. You were trying to help someone you cared about with essentials like food, transport, and even a laptop, and that really shows your kindness and good intentions.
It makes complete sense that you’re feeling uneasy and anxious now, especially with such a large amount still unpaid and no reply after you reached out. Anyone in your position would feel this way, particularly with a vacation coming up and wanting some peace of mind.
You’re not wrong for wanting to resolve this, and you don’t deserve to feel guilty for following up. If it helps, you might consider sending one calm, clear message about the amount owed and a reasonable timeline, and then giving yourself permission to step back for a bit. Reaching out to a trusted adult or third party for advice or support could also help take some of the weight off you.
I hope you’re able to get some clarity soon, and that you’re still able to find some space to rest and enjoy your break.
Dear @user2481
Thank you for writing in to share what you have been experiencing. I can see that you helped your friend out of kindness and care. You saw a friend going through hard times and stepped in to help. There was a goodwill and an established understanding that the friend will return the money.
Though $350 was returned, an outstanding amount of $1250 remains. It’s understandable to feel anxious when the situation is pending especially before a vacation you’ve been looking forward to. I believe not getting a reply can easily make anyone’s mind jump to the worst case scenario that she intends not to pay at all and is intentionally ignoring texts.
I think that you have done what you can for now by reaching out. It’s okay to pause, breathe, and give yourself permission to enjoy your vacation without trying to resolve everything immediately.
Do choose to be kind to yourself, you acted out of care, and that matters. 